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Monday, July 6, 2015

THERE'S NO TIME...

You've heard the expression, time and tide wait for no man? Well, it's true and it waits for no woman either (lol). We are allotted a certain amount of time when we arrive in this realm and we need to use it wisely. It is our fear of wasting time that causes us stress and yet the oxymoron there is that stress is such a waste of time.


How many times a day do you wonder what time it is. With the advent of the concept of time, came stress. When our society enveloped the use of the calendar and then the use of the concept of time within the calendar, we set ourselves up for these stressul lives we lead in being slaves to these two concepts. Think about your day. You get up at a designated time (most days) and then you use time to “stay on schedule” as you prepare yourself for you day. You then need to get to your work by a designated time and meet deadlines within their designated time frames. At some point you take a lunch, which is only allotted a certain amount of time before you need to be back to work. Then you have something you have to do after work and you need to be there at a certain time so you need to make sure you are out of work at a certain time in order to be to the after-work thing on time. You also need to make sure you don't spend too much time there because you need to get so many hours of sleep at night so you can get up on time in the morning for work again. Not only that, but while you are living day to day you are planning for certain holidays that may be arriving like Christmas or Thanksgiving and all the preparation you have to make sure you do for them within their time frame so that everything goes according to plan. Could you be more stressed America?


One of the phrases I hear most often is, “I don't have time.” I am here to tell you that, “Yes, you do.” You have the time. The time is yours. I find that people who use that phrase do so as an excuse as to why they didn't achieve something they didn't really want to achieve in the first place. “Why didn't you exercise after work?” “I didn't have time.” “Why didn't you jog this morning?” “I didn't have time.” “Why didn't you go to the doctor today?” “I didn't have time.” I think you see where I'm going with this. Even those people who really think they don't have time need to understand that the time is there and it is theirs to do with as they will. It is all in the planning. You can shift your allotments of time to make room for anything and everything you want to fit into your life, but be careful not to try to fit too much in one day because then you are just adding more stress. If you allot your time, there is no reason for stress. People who cut it down to the wire are the most stressed because they are late waking up, late getting to work, late for appointments, not getting their “in” basket cleared out every day, not weeding through x-amount of paperwork every day, etc. It is great to make goals for yourself to use your time wisely, but then you have to stick to them. If you know you want to exercise in the morning beause it makes your day start out better, get up earlier and plan accordingly. Many people successfully rise early, exercise, shower, eat breakfast and still get to work with time to spare. If you have a very busy position, be realistic about the things you can accomplish in one day without stressing yourself out. Your “in” basket is going to be there every day. You will probably rarely see it empty. You need to triage it in the morning, i.e. go through it and pull out everything that needs to be taken care of in an urgent matter and put those things either on top or to the side. You can even make an “in” basket for urgent matters and keep those separate. Everything else you will get to when you get to it. You have to be realistic about what you can accomplish in one day as a mere mortal. Now, if you have your Wonder Woman or Superman suit on and can use your super powers to go over and above what mere mortals can accomplish, then I say go for it, but let's face it...some days it's hard to get your work clothes on over that suit.


You have the time, now you need to take the time. Take it. It's that simple...just take it. It is yours to take. It was given to you at the time you were born. This is not a difficult concept, although most people make it so. An example of this would be that I wanted to blog before work this morning so I got up an hour earlier. Not only did I get to write my blog, but I also got to enjoy watching the sun come up behind the trees this morning and listen to the sound of the birds waking up all around me. I got to feel the cool, morning air on my skin and smell its early freshness. I like waking up slowly in the morning, savoring the touch of the sheets as I slowly stretch in them, watching something silly on television while eating breakfast in bed and looking out the window, watching the day begin to develop. I take the time. I cherish my time and yes, like every other human on the planet I have my areas in which I stress and waste it, but I work harder and harder on not doing so anymore. I have learned what a precious commodity it is and I feel that I cheat myself if I waste it. It is the same principle as taking hundred-dollar-bills and flushing them down the toilet one at a time and, in my opinion, it is less of a big deal to do that than to waste something as precious as time.


Be kind to yourself and appreciate this gift you were given. Stressing about it almost makes it seem like a bad thing. Do what you realistically can do in one day without overdoing it. Start your morning slowly, work through your work day doing only those things you CAN do without going overboard about it and without letting everyone else make you feel bad about not getting things done in “their” time frame, and do things after work that you want to do without compromising your evening sleep time. If you have a busy job and a boss who is always nagging you to accomplish the impossible everyday, either get this boss to hire you some help or it is time to look for another position people. It IS possible and you can have it if you want it.



There is always time.


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Sunday, July 5, 2015

FIND YOUR REFLECTION...

(I took this picture of Haceta Head Lighthouse this past Friday)

I had a beautiful day at the beach today, writing in my journal...poetry and reflection.  Reflection is such a great way to find the things in your heart and soul that are actually important and true.  This is the poem I wrote:


I now understand, I finally know,
How to find freedom, how to let go,

You have to give up, you have to give in,
But just from the fight you battle within,

You cannot worry, you cannot care,
About circumstances that aren't really there,

Live for each moment, they're precious you see,
Live for the positive, live to be free,

Keep judgments and gossip out of your life,
If you embrace them they'll only bring strife,

We need to weed through what's important or not,
We need to take stock of the beauty we've got,

Get rid of fear, be the person you are,
Learn to be free, stop fighting that war.


This is the reflection:


Right now, in this moment, sitting on the beach with my headphones in my ears, beautiful tunes pulsing through them into my soul and journal in hand, I can say that I am very happy and peaceful. The fact that I was granted the use of five beautiful senses is not lost of me right now and I hope it never will be. I hear the beautiful, peaceful sound of the waves lapping against the shore and the distant foghorn. I feel the warm sand sifting between my toes, the cool breeze gently caressing my skin and the sun as it peeks out from the clouds and warms me. I can taste the salt on my lips. I can smell the sea, its fresh and clean air. I can see the clouds part to make way for the arriving sun, the barge making its way to shore from the horizon, the varied colors of the sand and the sea, the waves as they change so rapidly, and the trees that stand majestically on the hillside. I am so grateful for these gifts, for my good health and my beautiful and positive life.



I share my day at the beach with the hope that you all have a special place to go that helps you to find the reflection within you. It sure does put everything into perspective.

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HEAD REGURGITATION...

If you read my blog then you know that from time to time I need to let out all of the random thoughts and weirdness that builds up and runs around my brain.  I do this in the form of free writing in which I write down anything and everything that comes to mind, whether it makes sense or not.  It is a great release and this morning I really need to release.

People who don't try to stay in my life, don't deserve to be there. I am going to slap the next person who tries to shush me in any way. If you know me you know I am a person of words, please respect that. Don't use the word “little” to describe anything in anyone's life when you talk to me, it is very condescending and pretentious. I love myself and I deserve only the best life has to offer. When is it going to be my turn, I have been waiting a very long time. I am learning to trust, but it's hard. I want someone. I feel lonely during family holidays. I miss my family, even my dad. I want to help people, I hope I do. I need to put more music on my phone. I want to go to the beach today. I love someone. I'm finally learning to let healthy love into my life. Why do people not say I love you back when you say it or write it to them? A person could leave your life in a heartbeat so if you don't tell them you love them every chance you get you will be left with regret. How come when I pour my heart out to someone I don't get the same in return every time. Why do gas prices go up on a holiday weekend. Aren't people more apt to travel when gas prices are down? They can make that shit up in volume. I love the morning marine layer because it keeps it cool here. I live in a beautiful area and I'm grateful for that. I had fun on Friday but not on the fourth. People are fucking nuts. I love art. I need some breakfast. I am missing a friend of mine. I can't wait until August 5th. I'm glad I work tomorrow. Too many days off just leave me thinking a lot. I love my son, he is so good to me. I need to wash my truck. I'm going to the beach today, definitely. I need water. I need to get out of bed. Life began at 50 and I'm so glad it did. Need to pack a picnic lunch to take to the beach. I love you.

At this point, after my head regurgitation, I feel so clear and much more at ease. As you can see there is no rhyme or reason for the way anything is written as it is the way it comes out of my mind. I love this exercise and I hope it will inspire you to let all the rambles out of your head the next time you feel stressed and pent up. It really helps.





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Saturday, July 4, 2015

FINDING FREEDOM...

You wanna know the secret to being free? It's actually very simple...you are free when you are fearless. Isn't that simple? Okay so for some the execution of that concept may not be simple, but for those who lead a relatively fearless and faithful life, you know what I mean.


I used to fear everything. I think all shy people do or they wouldn't be shy. Shyness in itself is a fear...a fear of being who you are and greeting the world with it for fear you will be judged. Actually, that is a good place to start, fear of being judged. Why do we fear this? If you break this down you will realize just how silly this is. We are afraid that if we do a certain thing or say a certain thing that someone in our personal world or our work world will judge us in some way but this then prompts me to ask you this question...so what? What will happen if you are judged by another human being who is full of as much human frailty and sin as you are? One of two things will happen...they will either move on, or say something negative in front of or behind your back and move on...either way, who the fuck are they to judge you. If you don't let what they say bother you in any way and just move on yourself, you have taken that power away from them, squashed it and taken the fear out of it. You will find in this scenario that 100% of people who point a finger at you have the other three fingers pointing back at them. My ex used to accuse me of cheating on him whenever he was cheating on me. Then he would accuse me of doing drugs when he was back on drugs. I began to notice that whenever he did something he knew was going to cause turmoil in our relationship he would first accuse me of that very thing. In the beginning his accusations would upset me and make me angry, but then I learned to use them for what they were, him telling me what HE was doing. If people judge you, then they do. You can't control that and if they keep it up, you may want to question why you have them in your life at all.


That is another good issue, control. Control is a HUGE fear factor that people tend to think they have. It is an illusion that any part of life may be controlled by predetermining the outcome. Control issues are based on fears that others won't live up to YOUR expectations...this is also called “outlining” where you hand the universe a script of how you want it and everyone in it to behave. Outlining could cause you to overlook an even more beautiful way of life in which you believe and have faith that what will be will be and you know what? It will be...no matter how much control you THINK you have over it, you don't. If you are meant to die on Friday the 18th, 2067, then that is the day you will die. No amount of determent will change that fact. It is destiny. Your whole life is destiny. If you can just let go of fear and let people be who they are and do what they will do and know with faith that you will handle it and all other change that enters your life, you will have no stress. That is right I said NO stress, not less. Stress is caused by fighting the change that is entering our lives. If we let it enter and deal with it in a positive way, it will not bother us. We let things bother us because of expectations and those will only cause stress. Do you see the vicious circle here?


Expectations. I wrote a post entitled, “Expect-fucking-tations,” a while back which goes into more detail on the subject, however this is a fear-based, self-destructive, negative and unrealistic thing to put into your life. If you expect someone to act negatively, chances are pretty good that they will. On the other side of that coin, just because you expect someone to do something or react a certain way, doesn't mean they will. I guarantee you will feel let down 100% of the time if you always expect how people “should” react or act (there is that word I hate again). People are who they are and who they are is unpredictable. That's kind of the excitement of it though, isn't it? How dull it would be if people did everything they way we expected they would. I find that people who expect everyone to behave a certain way will always have more drama in their lives because they put it there in this way. People who are laid back and seem to others to live a calm life, are those individuals who can just sit back, let everyone around them act and react the way they are going to, and just let it go. They could get all upset and create drama, but they don't. This is the kind of person I am trying to become because I have always been the former. I will be the first to say that I am not there yet, but I am well on my way. It takes years of baby steps to undo all of that negativity.



I want to be free. I want to totally let go and let it all in and love every minute of every thing I do in this realm and on this planet. In order for me to achieve this goal, I first need to be fearless, and I will be, eventually. Until then I surround myself with loving and patient people who will understand this metamorphosis and not judge me as I change because they are doing the very same, wonderful thing. If you want to be free it's simple...be fearless.

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SAND RAILS IN THE DUNES...

 (Top picture...I'm in the back with my hand on the top rail ...Bottom picture...I'm all the way to the left...not my best hair day...lol)


Part of the excitement of moving to a new state is discovering all of the things hidden in it.  I so love getting out in my truck and exploring. There are things to do all over the place and I am having so much fun finding them here in this beautiful state or Oregon.



A few miles south of Florence, Oregon, one of my favorite coastal towns (they still have an A&W that you can drive up in and they carhop for you), there is a place called the Family Fun Center and I have always wanted to go there. Yesterday I drove up to the Haceta Head Lighthouse in Yachats and on the way back I thought, why not.  Besides go-carts and bumper boats and other kid-friendly activities, they also had a huge dune buggy that would take you on a tour of the dunes or you could go for more excitement and go for a thrill-seeking ride on the sand rails.  Of course I chose the sand rails because who doesn't want the thrills. 


Our driver was Kyle and I was seated in the back (the sand-eating section...lol) which was more fun because when it turns left or right it whips you around.  I was riding with six other thrill-seekers and next to me was a young couple from Vancouver, Canada, vacationing down the coast.  They had never been on the dunes before.  I have been on the dunes thanks to my friends Trish and Scott Warren who took me on their quads.  I have to say I had so much fun listening to the lady next to me scream and say she was gonna die when we went down the drop-off hills...I could relate that to my first time on the dunes.  We sped around at 60 mph or better, up and down hills, around trees and poles in a sea of sand.  The wind was cool, but mild. I was "woo-hooing" as loud as I could and enjoying every minute of the speed and uncertainty of the turns and drops.  When we finally got out of the sand rail, as soon as I stood up it felt like water was running down my back under my shirt, but no, it was sand...lol.  I still have sand in my hair, even after washing it.  Next time I want to go for the hour.  Kyle told me they take you down on the beach as well during that trip.


If you have never been on the dunes, I strongly recommend it.  They are having a huge dune festival in August and if you get the chance, you definitely need to give this a try.



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Friday, July 3, 2015

LET ME HOLD YOU...

Be my love and I'll be whole, let me wrap you in my soul,

Let me wrap around your heart, from your life I'll never part,

You're a gift from up above and you have taught me how to love,

Live your life without the fear, live with pride don't shed a tear,

Be who you are despite the glares, I can teach you not to care,

Share my life and be with me, we'll live a life that's so carefree,

We'll make sweet love both day and night, how I long to hold you tight,


Be my love and I'll be whole, let me wrap you in my soul.


The thing about writing poetry, at least for me, is that when it needs to come out, there is no stopping it.  I liked this one though.

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Wednesday, July 1, 2015

YOU COULD LOSE IT ALL...

When you are going through your day and something happens that makes you feel any emotion other than a positive one, try to ensure that your reaction to it is positive, even if that just means letting it go. Don't waste your precious time and energy ruminating, i.e., turning the situation over and over in your head, giving it power and energy when you could be letting it go and getting it out of your life. You have SO much and to be grateful for it all is the most positive thing you can do.



Be happy and joyful within where miserable people refuse to be...see the beauty in your world where blind people cannot see...be the change in you and others where the timid and weak fail to execute...walk because some people have no limbs...laugh and cry because others cannot show compassion...care because some people never will...know that you have so much in your life because if you don't and you aren't grateful for what you have, you could lose it...physical possessions, emotional connections, relationships, positive experiences, good health, happiness, joy, laughter, love, family, friends, faith and spirituality. Those are what count, nothing else does.


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Monday, June 29, 2015

IF I COULD GIVE YOU ANYTHING...

If I could give you anything, I'd give you back yourself...this is my oath to you. I have always wanted to help people, but I never really knew exactly how I wanted to accomplish that, until I became a life coach. I feel the greatest joy from knowing that I have helped someone find themselves and start living the life they truly want to live...the life that fulfills them in every way and makes all their dreams come true. The reason this is so important to me is because of finally achieving it for myself. I wouldn't say that I have absolutely everything in place the way I want it to be, but I am fast on the track to getting there and will not stop until I am living it true.


In living a life in which you are not 1000% satisfied you settle for certain things because at some point in your past you thought you had to or couldn't do any better and the decisions you made during negative times in your life are still haunting you but I want you to know, these are not life sentences. You CAN turn things around. When I tell people this the first thing they usually immediately say back to me is this, “Yes, but if do that I might hurt (insert peoples' names here).” And then they say, “...but I might lose my (insert material possessions here), and what about this job that I've had forever (that they usually hate, by the way).” They are also afraid of what people will think about them and what they will say about them behind their backs and to this I always reply, “Really? People who barely know you shouldn't concern you and people who do know you will accept and love you when you make the choice to be truly happy because they love you and want only happiness for you...anyone else in your life who may disapprove, should not be in it.” People become so comfortable with their lives, even when they are dissatisfied and frustrated and often miserable, but they are afraid to go outside of that comfort zone to make the changes to become who they are meant to be, who they need to be and desire so deeply to be.


It was extremely hard for me to sell off my life in Arizona and move to a state in which I knew not a single soul. I could so easily say that I gave up my job of 6 years, my house of 14 years, all the antiques I had collected over a lifetime, my friends, my familiarity and comfort...or I could say that I gained the joy of the most beautiful scenery by the sea with the feel of my youth, the nicest community it has been my pleasure to discover, a job that is fun and so much less stressful than my last one and which I actually enjoy going to every day, new friends, new experiences, new and fresh things to discover every day and a brand new attitude. I've learned to love myself and therefore how to love others in a healthy manner. I've learned to allow only positive and loving people into my life and respect myself enough to know that I deserve this...I deserve good and wonderful things in my life and I can have them and it's okay. I can not only satisfy my need to be who I am meant to be, but I can now help others because of it and that was my ultimate life path, but I first had to help myself to get there. I had to have deep faith to do this because I had only so much money to live on and I knew if I didn't find a job or a cheap place to live quickly I could be on the streets, but something told me to just have faith and move forward, no matter the results because everything would work out just fine...and it has thus far and it will continue to do so. I now attract positive experiences and people into my life and nothing less will do.



You were you once, when you were young and free and it didn't occur to you to be anything or anyone else. Time and circumstances changed that...changed you and it can be undone. You CAN be you...the real you...you just need strong faith and conviction and you have to want it...I mean really want it all the way down to your should and if I can help you achieve this in any way I would love nothing more...so, to you I say, “If I could give you anything, I'd give you back yourself.”  


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Sunday, June 28, 2015

TAROT CARDS FOR BREAKFAST...

Every day that I am allowed to wake up and have a shot at another day, I am so grateful. I begin by waking up slowly and savoring the rest I feel from the previous nights' slumber. I then tend to my grooming and nutrition needs and return to my room where I pull 5 (as that is my life number) angel tarot cards and have them for breakfast, so to speak.  I pull angel tarot cards because angels had always surrounded my mother and eventually myself, but you can find tarot cards to reflect pretty much anything you are into these days. For me, this is one of the ways that I receive life messages from my angels and I like knowing each morning what they hold in store for me. 

I pull a card from each of my five decks in the morning and read their full meanings through their respective guide books. I love cards by Doreen Virtue...the first deck is called, “Angel Therapy,” the second, “Archangel Oracle Cards,” the third, “The Romance Angels,” the fourth, “Messages From Your Angels,” and the fifth is a deck by Stewart Pearce entitled, “Angels of Atlantis.” I feel that my angels guide me all day every day and getting that start to my day with the cards makes me feel energized and gives me a sense of purpose. Even if you don't believe in the power of tarot, think of it as the power of suggestion as well. When I read a card that states that, “the worst in now behind (me),” then that is the message I send to myself. Believing that makes my life feel positive and ready to forge ahead with confidence.



Let me share an example of a reading. This was Friday's tarot breakfast and it had me in an excellent mood all day:


The first card, from the Angel Therapy deck was the Twin Flame card which reads, “You drew this card because your twin flame is intricately involved with the answer to your question. A twin flame is a romantic partner who originated from your spiritual soul group—that is, he or she is “the one” in terms of soul-mate relationships. Often twin flames incarnate together during their last lifetime on Earth—after that reincarnation cycle has been completed, all karma has been balanced.”


The second card, from the Archangel Oracle Cards deck was Overcoming Difficulties, which reads, “The challenges you've faced have made you stronger and have taught you new lessons. Instead of becoming bitter, you've opened your heart with compassion toward people in similar situations. You've let go of any blame or feelings of victimhood. This is why you're now overcoming your previous challenges. Your positive outlook is attracting a loving solution and new situations at a lighter level of spiritual understanding. Stay positive!”


The third card, from the Romance Angels deck was Romantic Feelings, which read, “The stirrings within your heart represent the song of romance calling to you. This card comes to you as guidance to follow the pathway of those feelings. Perhaps you've met someone who made your heart leap, and you wondered whether to pursue him or her. Well, this card says that the answer is yes. Take action by flirting, asking the person out on a date, or making your feelings known.”


The fourth card, from the Messages From Your Angels deck was Chantall, which read, “New romance is imminent. You have been hungering for more romance and passion, and your prayer is answered. I am a Romance angel, and I am here to help you. New love is on its way to you, and you can open the door to this romance by opening your heart. The more that you welcome new love with open arms, the more romance will come your way. This also means that you must express yourself romantically toward your partner. Be candid about your feelings and intentions. Be playful and most of all, be openly loving with your partner as a way of encouraging the flow of romance to return to you.”


The fifth card, from the Angels of Atlantis deck was Zaphkiel, Romance, which read, “Zaphkiel is aware of the yearnings that currently exude from your heart, and intuitively receives the strong desire of your emotional body for the joy of romance, whether this be in new love or in an existing relationship. This stirring is often related to the fact that an ideal of love has not been experienced for some time. Explore this notion, truly identifying what that could be. The angels are returning you to a higher vibration of love, so don't cling tightly to the idea of love from your past, and be prepared to embark on a new way of loving. This is a time of wondrous changes in your loving propensities. Trust that Zaphkiel will work this out for your highest good.”


I am a hopeful romantic and as such I was so excited by this reading and therefore my day had me hopeful, excited, full of love and happiness and lost in thoughts of romance and positive ways that I can turn my old relationship issues around and find new ways to love and, more importantly for me, be loved. I have always been able to love to the fullest, but to be loved has always been difficult due to trust issues.



Whatever you can do to create a positive start to your day that harms no one, not even yourself (yes, I am also a practicing Wiccan), is something you would be wise to consider. The tone that is set by how your morning begins will govern the tone of your entire day. Start it off with a huge positive outlook, even if it means having tarot cards for breakfast.


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Saturday, June 27, 2015

TRUST IS GLASS...

In cleaning up my blog just now I came across a number of draft posts that I had written but then never followed through and published for one reason or another.  After reading this one, and remembering back to when I wrote it (over three years ago, right before yet another bad relationship decision on my part...lol) I had to publish it to remind myself that I have come so very far since writing this post and because of the people I choose to have in my current life, I have made huge progress in the trust and relationship departments.  

"Trust is glass. I say this because anything that can be broken that easily and pieced back together with glue, must be made of glass. I've grown up with the expression, “forgive and forgret,” but I have to say that for me, the forgiveness is extremely hard and like hell will I forget. I don't think you should forget, it isn't healthy. These are lessons in our life and we need to heed them, learn from them and then let them go...not forget them, but let them go to the place within us that they are meant to live until we need them again, if and when another lesson is needed.


I always have high hopes going into a new relationship, be it friendship, love, marriage, partnership, etc. Some people can trust so easily. I used to be one of those people, but I let time and my bad taste in people really screw that up and now I really have no trust in humanity in general. Not to say that I won't ever again trust someone, but I feel sorry for the next person who wants to be in my life on a regular basis because they are really going to have to prove themselves when it comes to keeping their word. We have all been hurt in different ways, but the worst one for me are people who say they WILL do something, i.e. that they will meet me somewhere, do a favor for me, call me, text me, whatever the case may be. If you actually tell me you are going to do something, then I expect that you will follow through because I trust you to do so, and if situations arise where you can't, then a simple and quick text or email or something to that effect will suffice, but DON'T leave me hanging. It's the one thing on which I will no longer bend. I have been used so much in the past and then pushed aside when people are done with me but I can no longer stand to be shoved off, and if I start a new relationship and this happens again, it WILL be a deal breaker and I will be done with the relationship. I finally have respect for myself and will no longer be treated with anything but respect and common, human courtesy, and why would you accept anything less in your life. To some this may sound harsh, but others know that we all have breaking points where trust is concerned and the way we have been treated, or let ourselves be treated in the past, will dictate those breaking points.


Once trust is broken, just like glass, it is hard to put it back together again, and even if you manage, it will only ever be as strong as the parts that were mended will allow.



I hope everyone who reads this post and knows their breaking point, will bring those issues to the surface and face them head on. It will be at that point that you can move on and the right person, the one who will earn and deserve your trust, will move into your life."

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YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE...

The power of the mind is an incredible thing, but it makes so much sense when you think about what vibrational beings we are that we create our own realities through the power of  our beliefs.

Did you ever notice that when people believe in you, I mean truly and deeply believe in you, you feel like you can do anything?  The same is true when you believe in yourself, and while I very much value the importance of believing in yourself, I feel like a much better version of myself when I have people in my life who believe in me, appreciate what I do for them, understand me, trust me, value who I am as a person and who I genuinely believe in in return.  I have to say, they are very few and far between, but I purposely weeded all the sucker-fish people (see previous posts) out of my life.  I now know that everyone in my life is there because they are genuine and not because there is something they can use me for before they move on or because they are victims who want to emotionally suck me dry.  All that remain in my life are people I believe in and who believe in me, and, while I am on that subject let me just say that I am so full of love and gratitude for you being there and believing in me and letting me believe in you.

The same principle applies in all areas of your life.  If you believe you can do something, you can.  If you believe you can be something, you can.  If you believe you can have something, you can.  If you believe you deserve something, you do.  The power of positive thinking is tantamount to this thought process however, so be careful of what you are thinking about because you will always draw those things into your life...positive is good...negative, not so much.




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PEOPLE WHO LOVE DIFFERENTLY...

I don't know who ever came up with the term, “normal,” as I am sure it was some psychotherapist way back when, but it is one of the most hateful words on the planet. This word should not even exist in such an eclectic world where no two individuals are alike. It has created a paradigm in which people try to fit in and in doing so, change who they really are inside. I find this so, so sad. Now, if you want to be who you are you have to go against this paradigm because it has been widely accepted as the standard of who you “should” (another hated word of mine) be. Most people are afraid to go against anything and will therefore live a life they were not meant to live, never being true to who they are inside...I hate fear.


We don't all love the same. I mean, we do, but we don't. We all love...that is a given and a basic instinct. In fact, it is what we strive for, to love and be loved so why then does it have to have so many rules? Why make it so difficult?


I love differently. In other words, I go against the “normal” way for a woman to love because I love the person. It matters not to me whether a person is a male or a female, it matters to me what they hold as values and how they treat themselves as well as others... if they are decent, respectful, positive, loving, caring, carefree, fun, full of life and love me in the same way as I love them.


I have to say though, that my greatest experiences have been with women and, although I don't often refer to myself as a lesbian because I hate labels and I love a person not a gender, I do have a propensity toward relationships with women. For me, they are the more comforable of the two. It feels so great for me to be able to share not only genuine human traits, but those only another woman can understand and/or appreciate in a woman.


I once saw a movie in which the heroines were lesbians and there was this line, “here is to people who love differently,” and I thought to myself, that's an odd phrase. It isn't possible to love differently, I mean love is love, loving is loving, giving love and receiving love are just that. The only reason they used a phrase like this is because of the word, “normal.” If it isn't normal for two people of the same sex to love one another, then they must love differently. To this I say, bullshit. I don't love any differently than anyone else. I may love to different degrees than other people, for I consider myself to be a very passionate person and I love from the depths of that passion, but differently? Not possible.



My point here is this: If you love someone you love them. It's beautiful. Don't label it...don't choose it based on gender...don't belittle it...don't overthink it...don't underestimate it. Do fall into it...do enjoy the hell out of it...do love with all of your heart...do find the passion...do live for it and most of all...do be true to you in your heart of hearts and depths of your soul. Leave the word “normal” out of your vocabulary, screw what others think of you for in the end the only thing that matters is what you think of yourself. No one has to live with who you are , more than you do. Short change that and you will never, ever find the real you before you leave this earth which will in turn result in a wasted journey.

***After having published this post I heard about the Supreme Court's ruling on same-sex marriage and I would just like to say...IT'S ABOUT TIME AND THANK YOU!!!  June 25, 2015 will go down in the history books as a very triumphant day***


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Tuesday, June 23, 2015

LEAVE IT ALONE...

Why, when everything is going so well, do some of us feel the need to pick things apart?  You got a promotion???  Wow, that's wonderful.  Oh, you didn't get the office you wanted with the corner window and the view or as much money as you had hoped for and they didn't get you your own assistant like you thought........REALLY???  You...got...a...promotion!!! Leave...it...alone.  You what?  You got a check in the mail for $100.00 from some refund a long time ago???  That's so awesome.  Oh, they didn't send it out when it should have gone out a year ago.  Yes, but you forgot all about it and it's here now and you can use the money.  Oh, you thought it should have been more but you can't remember.  Okay, but it's here now and it's $100.00 you didn't even know was coming. Oh, well true you could have used it then, but it's here now and you can use it now!!! Be...grateful...and...leave...it...alone!!!  You're getting to go on the trip of a lifetime???  I'm so happy for you.  Oh, you couldn't save up enough money for the more expensive tour to coincide with the seasons?   Right, but you can go now. Oh, you can't go the week you wanted because you didn't book your flight in time.  But you can go now and you have the time off of work and you get to go on the trip of a lifetime. Oh, you don't think you have the right wardrobe, but you have nice clothes and you get to go on the trip of a lifetime.  You what?  Oh, thought the tour was going to be longer than a week, but you get...to...go...on...the...trip...of...a...lifetime. Leave...it...alone.  

I'm gathering by now that you can see my point. When you have good and wonderful things put into your life on a daily basis, don't try to find the but, but, but in them...find the OMG factor.  The positive aspects of them just being presented to you and for you.  After all, not everyone knows how to bring good and wonderful things into their lives, so if you are able to do it, embrace it, keep it up and be grateful.



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Sunday, June 21, 2015

POETRY TAPESTRY...

Sometimes I write poems to free up my head and my soul...you know to kind of purge all of the feelings I am having to make room for more.  I like to write several at a time and piece them together with a theme, like a tapestry.

**LET ME SHOW YOU**

Come and take a trip with me, let me hold your hand;
Come and see my world with me, you seem to understand;

I think you really see me, like no one has before;
You see what's hidden in the dark, what's beyond the door;

People never see inside my deepest, darkest depth;
But you have broken through it all, you took away my breath;

I thank you for the privilege to see inside your soul;
You let me in and trusted me, an honor I behold;

I feel your trust within my soul, my faith in you is real;
Faith I've never known before and been afraid to feel;

Let me show you what can be, a life you've never known;
I want you to unfold your dream, together not alone;




And this was the second poem:

** US **


I feel you through the distance, I know our souls are one;
I long to hold you close to me, so much I come undone;


We need to be together, if only for a time;
To show our hearts it's meant to be and walk across the line;


I need you now so desperately that I can scarcely wait;
To be with you completely, I know it must be fate;


I want to help you know the joy of being who you are;
Trust me now to take you there, I never will be far;


I cherish each and every word and thought and dream we share;
Do you know how much I need you, just how much I care?


We have a deep connection, so deep I never knew;
That I could fall in love like this, it's all because of you;


You opened up your heart to me and then you took my hand;
You let me see the fear in you, you knew I'd understand;


I know when we're together in body, mind and soul;
That we will finally feel complete and let go of control;


We'll finally know the the unison of feeling like we're home;
When our souls can meld as one and never be alone.


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DON'T SAY THE "RIGHT" THING...

I have a question for you...are you true to yourself or do you say the “right” thing, and by the “right” thing I mean the nice and appropriate thing to say at the time because you think the situation calls for that answer and not the answer you want to use because it would be best for you and true to what you want. An example of this would be... let's say you are one of those people at work who takes care of everything and because of this everyone feels they can approach you with all of their problems, work and personal, and you are so nice that you never say no to them. In fact, you end your sentences with something equivalent to, “...and if you need anything else, let me know...any time.” I guarantee you that you will attract a plethora of broken and negative people into your life and you will have to fight harder and harder to stay positive because at work you will be doing their jobs and in your personal life they will be calling on you to fix everything for them. They will sit back and let you run their lives so they don't have to. I call them sucker-fish people. You know the fish in the tank that suck all the algae off the sides and bottom? These people suck the good and positive things out of your life and leave you frustrated, tired and stressed. They will suck all they can out of you and move onto the next person without so much as a thought about what it did to you...don't think they won't. They want their mommies to come and run their lives so they don't have to grow up so they find people who will treat them the way mommy did. They are grown ups...let these people fend for themselves and finally grow up. You can't fix everyone and expect that if won't take a huge toll on your own life.


It seems the nicer you try to be in life, the more your tendency is to lose yourself in what others want and what is best for them. In doing so you then gradually become frustrated and jaded because you neglect what is best for you. Yes, it is good to be a good person and a good friend, but please make extra sure that you are being a good friend to people who will return what you give them so freely. In the workplace it is great to be a team player and to help others, but not beyond the point of them helping themselves. They get paid for doing their jobs, just like you, but you don't get paid for doing their jobs as well, you just get stressed and frustrated and tired. Pretty soon you look in the mirror and wonder who that is looking back at you because you barely recognize them.


I love the old adage, “Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” In other words, you can help these people if you really want to, but don't hold their hands and be their parent...show them how to solve things on their own and learn to say no if you don't want to take on that role. It's okay to say no and have a life of your own. So many people won't turn others down because they have a fear that if they do they will talk badly about them behind their backs and not like them. I say this...if that is the case, believe me you are so much better off without them in your life. In learning to steer these people away from you, you come closer to a positive life that is about you and your needs because, let's face it...if you don't take care of your needs...who will?


I am hopeful that this post will guide you to be true to yourself and the next time someone asks something of you that you don't want to do...just say no...or any other phrase that would bring you the results that YOU desire.




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LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT...

I took this picture last Friday when I stopped at the beach to eat my lunch.  I thought I would put a post into it...short and sweet.


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Saturday, June 20, 2015

LETTER TO MY MOTHER...


Every now and then I still get the urge to call my mother.  Even though I talk to her all the time, as I know she leads my circle of angels, I still have a need to tell her things in writing, maybe as a therapeutic tool for me.  I thought this time I would publish this one as a post because if you are missing a loved one from your life, someone you were so close to that took part of your soul when they left, I think this may be good therapy for you as well.

 “Dear Mom,

It has been five years since God called you home and yet some days it feels like yesterday.  I have come to terms with the fact that I will never stop missing you but as, I assure myself that you are with me all the time, I have hope that the degree will lessen. 

When you first left I felt so very alone in the world, even though I still had people in my life, they could never be in my life like you.  There are times this feeling still will not subside. You were the biggest part of who I am.  You raised me, shaped me and guided me into the person I am today and I am so grateful to you every day that you were the loving influence in my life as dad just didn’t know how to give of himself and his love.  I miss your sage advice and how you always knew what to say whenever I would confide in you, which was all the time. 

I still have a hard time letting people get close to me, but I also know that you wanted me to not be such a loner and to learn to let go and let people in so I could one day know what it is to be loved.  I am proud to say, Mom, that because of your loving influence and the fact that I still hear you, I am finally learning to do just that.  My heart is resilient and it will bounce back if I let myself risk opening it to the wrong person.  I finally know that that is what we are supposed to do.  That my heart won’t break without the ability to mend itself with time and that if I don’t risk opening it, I will never know love.  I want to know it…I need to know it and I am happy to say I am letting it in now.  You showed me how to embrace the middle ground that dad never had and to forgive.  My greatest gifts pertaining to who I am are because of you.

You would be so proud of your grandson.  He is working and happy and making much better choices for his life.  Today is his 22nd birthday.  I know you said the one thing you didn’t want to miss out on was how he turned out, but I also know that you have been there guiding him the whole time, as you have done with me.  He knows you are there as well.  He said he can feel you too and that he misses and loves you.

I will never be more grateful to anyone than I am to you and I miss you with every fiber of my being, every minute of every day.  I was angry when you first left, but knowing that you are my angel and in a loving place, safe and out of suffering will always bring me peace.  I could not have asked for a more beautiful soul to have been my mother.  I love you always with all of my heart.”

After having written this letter I have found so much more peace in my day.  I hope that writing to someone you have lost will help you to realize how much a part of your life they will always be, in this realm and all others, and to find joy in all of the positive things they brought into your life. 



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Thursday, June 18, 2015

IF YOU LOVE ME...THEN KNOW ME...

If you love me, then know me...for who I am and what I believe in.  If you love me, then respect and accept me for all that surrounds me.  By the same token, if I love you then I respect you for who you are and what you believe in and I promise you this...

1.  I will always write I love you but I will never write “ I luv u,” because it demeans the sentiment and I know you would never do that to me either.

2.  I will Never use the word “little” to describe anything in your life that means something to you, i.e. your “little” car that you drive and the “little” house that you live in or the "little" song you just wrote, and I know you would never do that to me as well because it bugs the crap out of me as it is condescending to others.

3.  I will never call you dumb or stupid if I really just mean you're being silly,and I know you would not do that to me either because you wouldn't risk hurting my feelings.

4.  I will never repeat your words back to you verbatim because you know what you said.

Get to know the people you want in your world. Acceptance of who they are will make you closer than you ever thought possible.



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Sunday, June 14, 2015

I AM A JUNKIE...

I am a junkie...that's right...I have an addictive personality and I am addicted to all things positive.


I was born into a family from which both sides were highly prone to addiction, especially on my father's side with alcoholism, although it was deep on my mother's as well. I so vividly remember how my father really never had a middle ground or a gray area. Things to him were either black or white, good or bad and people were either in his life or out of it. My mother was my saving grace because she was all gray area and I mean that in a good way. I always felt so bad for the rampant depression that plagued her life, but she was the one who could see the other possibilities in most situations and exercise forgiveness when people “messed up.” If not for her I would have no idea that a middle ground existed as I tended to take on most of my father's traits.


With divine help and guidance I have finally turned my negative life into a positive one, but I am not out of the woods yet. All change is hard and slow and so it should be. We take years building up all these negative ways that we live and it needs to be undone in a healthy and slow manner. I still have my tendency to addict to positive things and now that the positivity in my life outweighs the negativity, I feel like a junkie...but in a good way. I'm so happy this is happening and I now know that all the hard work I have spent years on is paying off. I see and feel it all around me. I no longer feel the need to dwell on past events and use those to base my fears on future events.


People who worry don't realize that what they worry about will eventually come true because they are giving that fear so much energy that they will actually create the very situation they are worried about. What is meant to happen...will happen and no amount of worry is ever going to alter that course. Let...it...go!!! You will NEVER have a life of happiness, joy and positive outcomes if you worry about things that may or will never, ever happen. Choose to be a positivity junkie. If you absolutely cannot quiet your mind from worry, begin by changing the verbiage of your worried thoughts, i.e., instead of the thought that says, “It's dark and I hope we don't die in a car crash because a deer jumps out of the trees and forces our car into the river,” force your head to make it positive. Try saying instead, “This is going to be a beautiful drive in the moonlight, sitting next to someone I love, feeling the cool breeze which smells like forest and river. Look how the moon glistens off of the river. I am so enjoying this moment in my life.” Now I know for some people this will be harder than hard, it was not easy for me when I first began this, but now it has become like second nature. I drive along and think, “Wow, what a beautiful day...thank you for all the wonderment and joy and awesome things I have in my life and the beautiful opportunities.” The more you put gratitude out into the universe, the more wonderful things you will receive in your life, but you first have to let go.



The first step in becoming a positivity junkie is to actively replace any and all negative thoughts and feelings with positive ones. You have to stop in your tracks when you notice them and do it then and there. The only regrets people usually have are for the unlived dreams they never tried to have due...to...fear. It's true what they say, you have nothing to fear but fear itself. Fear the unlived life. I will be the person who has had every wonderful experience she ever dreamed of and has no regrets. 


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Saturday, June 13, 2015

ASK FOR HELLLLLLP...

I cannot count the number of times during my life, beginning from very early childhood, that people have said to me, "Kimberly, ask for help."   Really?  I'm German, Irish and Taurus...my philosophy? ...If I can't do it myself it isn't possible in my world.  Now looking back on this philosophy of mine as of late, I have to say I see where it might be a bit flawed.  

I'm not sure as to the why and the particulars of it all, but asking for help is so hard for me.  My mother once told me that my first words were, "I do it!"  Wow, that just spoke volumes to me.  My poor mother, God rest her soul, put up with a lot from me as I grew, but she loved me unconditionally, which is hard to find this day and age...but I digress.  It seems to me that life would not be so hard if I were the type of person that went around asking everyone for help all the time, but I think in the back of my mind I see it as some sort of weakness...which it very much is not, don't get me wrong, but that is how I have always viewed asking for help...at least for me. Every time I get into a hard situation I try anything and everything I can possibly think of to get out and/or around it.  There are times when I feel like I'm running into a wall, over and over again with the same results.  It is only after I have metaphorically broken all my bones from banging into the wall so much, that I finally ask for help.  Then, when I receive help from someone who can actually offer the type I need, the situation becomes resolved and usually very quickly and I sit there licking my wounds and shaking my head asking myself, "Now why didn't I just do that in the first place."  You know, hind sight and all.  I also used to feel like it would put somebody out if they had to help me or felt as though they had to help me and then I would owe them for eternity because I never feel I can do enough for someone to pay them back.  These are not positive thoughts, which is the way my life is now geared.  I now know that in my positive world it is okay to ask for help and a simple thank you will usually suffice as payment in kind.  

When we don't ask for the help we need, we make life so much harder on ourselves, and let's face it, it's hard enough.  It is important to realize that we need help early on and ask for it. People don't judge us for it or look down on us for it and really, so what if they do.  That would just alert me to the fact that they are not the people to ask and then make me ask myself just why those types of people are in my life in the first place.  Time to remove those unwanted elements.  

At this stage in my life, I want easier, not harder, I want positive, not negative and I want happiness and joy in abundance, not sadness and depression.  I want new and exciting experiences and opportunities in my life.  I want all the best life has to offer and if asking for help will make any and all of that come to me faster, bigger and better, I'm in.  Ask for help...whenever and wherever you need it.  Fill your life with ease...not tension.  


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