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Friday, July 14, 2017

DON'T QUIT...

DON’T QUIT
Kimberly D Miller 07/15/2017

For twenty-four (24) years I have been a single mother.  No time however, seemed more challenging than when I was in my mid thirties struggling to work, pay bills, raise my son and fight the chemical depression that was to be my constant companion for the rest of my life.  It was during one of these challenging days that my mother handed me a laminated card the size of a playing card that read, “Don’t Quit.  When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, when the road you’re trudging seems all up hill…When the funds are low, and the debts are high, and you want to smile, but you have to sigh…When care is pressing you down a bit, rest if you must, but don’t you quit.  Life is queer with its twists and turns, as every one of us sometimes learns…And many a failure turn about, as you might have won had you stuck it out…Don’t give up though the pace seems slow, you may succeed with another blow.  Success is failure turned inside out, the silver tint of the clouds of doubt…And you never can tell how close you are, it may be near when it seems so far…So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit, it’s when things seem worse that you must not quit.”  It was on that day, the day I think my mother must have known deep down in her soul could have been my last, that she saved my life with this card quite literally, as it was the very day I had been contemplating suicide.  What was it about this card that meant so much as to turn my decision around?  Was it that the words on the card were just what I needed to hear?  Was it the mere gesture of receiving the card or a combination of both?  Who knows, but I choose all of the above.  My mother was nothing if not my rock, and this small gesture was tantamount to the giving, caring person she always was…she didn’t quit.  Even at the end she fought cancer with all she had and, although it won, she didn’t quit…ever.

          The line of this card that stands out to me is this, “Success is failure turned inside out, the silver tint of the clouds of doubt,” as it reminds me that our attitude toward things that happen in our lives dictates our “successes” and our “failures.”  Who is to say that the way we approach any and every situation one at a time is either a success or a failure?  Our friends?  Our families?  Our neighbors?  Strangers who stare?  Who is to say?  We are!!!

          If you begin to feel that a situation you are dealing with could be termed by your definition as a failure, then stop.  It’s time to redefine…time to turn this inside out as we remind ourselves that success is our only option.  Maybe the path we were on took a wrong turn, maybe the decisions weren’t quite right at that place in that time.  Maybe many other things could have been done or…maybe you only had to view the positive aspects, the things that went right, the little moments in which you filled yourself with pride…all of the little successes strung together to produce one big definition of success.  You might ask, “What if I didn’t get the results I wanted?  What if there were sad and angry outcomes created by this?  Again, it’s all in how you look at it because even if you didn’t get the results you wanted, maybe you got the results you needed at that point in time.  Maybe you got the results you were supposed to have in order to lead yourself down a better path somewhere in the future or maybe you didn’t get any results at all, but in any case…stop and adjust…find the good, find what did work out.  How can you change your thoughts into positive thoughts in this situation?  How can you tell yourself that this is a victory?  Turn any and all negatives inside out and stay in the moment…then forgive yourself for almost quitting…because you didn’t…you didn’t quit.  In time, you will understand how each and every situation plays a part in a future decision or path and how one really needs the other to happen in order to occur and by keeping it positive and finding the good, you make it easier to move forward with less regret and guilt…two words I try to eliminate from my vocabulary.

          Many years later, now in my mid fifties, a new friend recently handed me the same type of small, laminated card that read, “Chipp on my shoulder…Love.  Lord, please help me to begin each day with a big chip on my shoulder!  Compassion Humility Integrity, Patience, Peace.”

          My wish for you is that you never quit and that you begin each day with a chipp on your shoulder. J

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Wednesday, June 14, 2017

A LION JUMPED IN FRONT OF MY CAR…

A LION JUMPED IN FRONT OF MY CAR…
© June 1, 2017

…but I sat there and waited it out, he left and I moved on with my day.  There’s no home safe enough, no relationship secure enough, no person sane enough, no situation perfect enough to escape change…and I should know as I have fought it every step of the way since the day I was blessed into this world.  We are our own worst enemy when it comes to fears and “what-if’s.”  Those of us with huge imaginations go one step further because if we run out of things to fear, we just make up stuff, and not even on purpose…lol…sad, but true.

What if a lion did jump in front of your car…what would you do?  If you think about it, there is no other choice but for it to work out.  If you stay in your car, it would realize it couldn’t get to you even if it wanted to and move on down the road, if it were even curious about you in the first place…you would then go on with your journey and that situation would have worked out just fine.  Worse case scenario, you end up sitting there for a long time, but you live and you move on.  We all let fear rule our lives and yet, if we realized at the time it is happening that there is no such thing as fear we would eliminate so much stress from our lives.  Every situation will work out…it has no other choice.  It may not always work out the way you want it to, but it will work out.  More often than not the fear of a situation is in the “what if…” and in these instances it helps to remember there is no “what if,” there is only…what is.

If you break it down slowly, as it happens, and cope with each part of it, the situation at hand will seem less fearful.  First deal with the why…ask why you are afraid in that moment?  Are you projecting into the future?  Are you basing fear on something that may happen simply because it has in the past or even because your mind tells you there is no other way?  How could you know?  If you are not a person who has the gift of E.S.P, then how could you possibly know the future? Answer these questions and you relieve the fear.  Practice this in every fear-based situation, and eventually you abolish irrational fear from your life.  Fight-or-flight (fear in dangerous and real situations) is a necessary thing for survival, but irrational fear is not.  It hinders way more than it could ever help. 

The key to success when making changes in your life is this…never let anyone force you into doing anything you don’t want to do at that time.  It takes time to eliminate fear…it takes time to effectuate change in any way, but it absolutely, positively must be done at your own pace…no one else’s.  It will work out…every time…have faith in yourself, you’re worth it.




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Sunday, May 21, 2017

WHERE THE H%&# HAVE YOU BEEN?...


WHERE THE H%&# HAVE YOU BEEN?
May 21, 2017 - Kimberly D Miller

One of the toughest questions to answer on this planet and in this realm, at least for a lot of us, is..."Who am I?"  At birth we are the purest form of who we are, but then, as we grow and change, we become a product of our upbringing and our environments which can oft times be detrimental as it deters us from being who we are truly meant to be.  We end up making decisions based on who we think we are at the time, but if we are not being true to ourselves, we end up in situations that will cause us to be very unhappy at the core of our being due to those decisions not being right for whom we are truly meant to be.

At this point you may have a burning desire to pose the question, “Ok, then how do I find out who I really am?”  To that I answer, “Very carefully.”  You have to let it come to you…you have to listen and feel…then you have to trust those feelings and respond accordingly.  You know how sometimes you just know things…you don’t know how or why you know them, you just know them?  This is when you trust…this is when you heed your gut feeling and either move forward or veer from the path you are considering.  Some call this a leap of faith, but if you trust in what you are feeling, you aren’t leaping at all…just having faith.  Trust is a tough issue, but when you have trusted your gut for a long period of time and learned so many valuable lessons in doing so, it will become second nature for you to do so.  You will then increase the amount of times you listen and act on your gut feelings and your life will increase in positivity and happiness exponentially. 

Honesty is the other main ingredient.  Not only do you need to be gut-wrenchingly honest with others, you need to do the same with yourself.  Stop living your life to please other people because if you live against the grain of all things that make you truly happy, then you will find yourself at the end of your life with so many regrets.  People either accept you for who you are, or they don’t…it’s that simple.  Believe me, if they don’t, you are much better off without them in your life because they will only bring negativity and toxicity and at some point, you will start to believe them.  Search yourself long and hard before making decisions based on what other people have “advised” or passed judgment on.  You live your life for you, not for others.  Be honest with yourself about your strengths and your likes, and find things you love to do…places you love to be…and people who only add happiness, positivity and joy to your life and honor those feelings and choices as they are a part of the real you.


There is no more comfortable a skin to live in, than in the person you are truly meant to be.  Honesty, trust and faith are your stepping stones on the path to that reveal and in time, you will walk around a corner and find who you are meant to be standing right in front of you…it’s an amazing discovery and never a truer simpatico relationship exists. 

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Thursday, April 20, 2017

STUCK IN TIME...


 Do you ever feel like you’re the same inside?  Like no matter how hard you try to change and move forward...you just can’t?  That you keep making the same mistakes over and over even though your deepest desire is to get it right?  I call this…stuck in time (aka stuck in a moment).

Devastating moments, traumas and just plain horrible events occur in all of our lives, and if we don’t make peace with them and see them for what they are…lessons…then our psyches refuse to move on.  Our bodies and souls move forward, but not freely and not without great effort.  Your head, and therefore your heart, will become “stuck” in the moments you can’t forgive and you tend to remain that age until you can forgive.  Using myself as an example…I was raped at age 21 and for the next, approximate, 20 years that followed, I remained a hurt, angry and vindictive 21-year-old girl.  Everything I tried in life, failed…or so it seemed.  I was depressed and trusted no one, and therefore made one wrong decision on top of another, sabotaging every good thing that tried to make its way into my self-deprecating life.  Years later I learned how to finally deal with this event and knew that I could only ever move on if I were to forgive myself…that’s right…me, not him.  He will never be forgiven, but I needed to quit giving him and that event any more time and attention and focus on the real problem…my perception.  When I forgave myself for all of the illusive perceptions and self-blame…I could move on with my life and finally put it all behind me, even though I had created the illusion that I already had.  The forgiveness made it real.

What happens to you is only one percent of your life…how you perceive it and how you react to it and handle it, is the other 99 percent.  If you find yourself repeating the same self-deprecating behavior over and over and realize that you are stuck in time, search your soul and find the thing or things that hurt you, put your finger on it/them and address them head on until you can forgive yourself.  Journal, meditate, therapize, whatever works best for you, but make the end result complete and total forgiveness of self.  Love yourself that much and honor your life by living your dreams to their fullest…do that and all good things fall into place with ease.  Be happy…it’s extremely possible.




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Friday, April 14, 2017

YOU GET WHAT YOU SETTLE FOR…



YOU GET WHAT YOU SETTLE FOR…

Truer words have never been spoken… “You get what you settle for”…period.  What we allow ourselves to have is what we have, and what we allow ourselves to be, is who we are.  This is another aspect in keeping with the theme of my last post.

Abundance is everywhere…it is the way of the world, but most of us are taught that life is hard and unforgiving and we have to scrimp and save and work for the things we want. Eventually our thoughts are very limiting and we become conditioned to believe that we will never have very much and that we aren’t really worth it. 

Everything we are and everything we have is energy based.  Energy attracts energy and is drawn to all other energy and, therefore abundance in all forms is all around us…we merely have to ask and it will manifest.  I have never seen more proof of this than I have lately.  I ask for things to happen…and they do.  I need something and, without any money involved, it comes to me.  The difference between then and now?  I believe…I believe I can have abundance…I believe I can and will have anything and everything I need.

Settling is a byproduct of fear and/or a lack of self-confidence and self-love.  It says to the universe, “I can’t do any better,” or “I’m tired of trying and this is all I can do,” and the universe answers back, “Okay, if you say so.”  The universe isn’t going to grant you anything you don’t ask for and believe without a doubt that you can have.  Everything will happen in its own time for the plan that is laid out for your life, and everything will always work out, but be careful of what you think about and wish for because you will attract to you even the things you do not want by giving them attention and energy.  Remain positive in your thoughts and your wants and desires and you can have all of these things and more.


Take stock of your life…look around and ask yourself if anything in your life is the way it is because you settled.  If the answer is yes, ask yourself what you are going to do about it.  Did you settle for a relationship?  If not, do you stay in one because you don’t believe you can have the person you truly desire?  Do you have the home you want, the career, the experiences you want?  Do you ultimately live the way that makes every fiber of your being deeply happy and satisfied?  If not, ask for the things you really want in your life, for the people and the situations and I guarantee that they will come to you.

My wish for you is that you have all you ever ask for.


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Sunday, April 9, 2017

WHAT WOULD MR. SPOCK DO?…


If people were honest…I mean gut-wrenchinly honest with themselves, and they fully exercised this honesty/integrity when making decisions that affect the rest of their lives, the world would certainly be a much more positive place to live because it would consist of a greater percentage of truly happy people.  Unfortunately that is not the case.

I believe people who feel mean and frustrated and angry all the time, made life choices that were not true to what they really, really wanted at the time of the decision and ultimately, what they wanted out of life.  Sometimes they made decisions “for the good of everyone involved,” but it did not suit them well.  Sometimes they made decisions to please a spouse or partner,” but it did not serve them well.  Sometimes they made decisions “for the good of the child/children,” but that did not bring happiness to them.  Sometimes they made decisions because they “didn’t want to hurt the other person/people involved,” and that went south as well.  Even though a lot of the decisions we make affect others, ultimately, if they are not conducive to happiness within our hearts and souls, somewhere down the line they turn to dis-ease (hence the term “disease). 

There is a lot to be said for spontaneity, however who we are and what we actually want in and from life, requires not only thought and feeling, but honesty toward both.  Our thought process is influenced by how we feel at the time of the decision…what we see, what we hear and what we desire.  All of these factors weigh in on our ultimate choice, and that is as it should be, however, that being said…I now ask myself, “What would Mr. Spock do?”  Having been a child of the original Star Trek generation, I often envied Mr. Spock’s ability to find the logic in every situation.  True he sometimes missed out on love and lots of fun and frivolous things we humans enjoy, but in the end, Mr. Spock had a pretty great life, just being logical.  Do I think everyone should go through life relying on nothing but logic?  Absolutely not, but I do think that if we honored our deep wants and needs with honesty and profound integrity, and exercised logic in our decision-making, we would make decisions that granted us true happiness.  Examples that come to mind are a parents’ decision to stay together “for the good of the children.”  Yeah, I’m here to tell you that the fighting and tension between parents is not good for the children.  Both parties lead very unhappy lives for a very long time.  Another example might be wanting to be with someone because you know in your heart and soul it would make you happy beyond belief and that there is no question that this is the right person for you…that this person completes you, and then you stay in the situation you are in so you don’t “hurt” everyone else involved and you never know how amazingly happy and fulfilling life could have been.  Then there is fear, my least favorite “F” word.  At the base of both of the above examples lies fear.  In the first example it would be fear of losing time with the kids, fear of losing a relationship you thought was supposed to last, fear of not being good enough, fear of not being loved by any and all of the people involved and fear of loss.  In the second relationship, fear of hurting the people in your life (but if they were truly good for you in the first place they would understand), fear of not being liked by them anymore, fear of not being good enough, fear of rejection, fear of the unknown and ultimately a lack of faith in all things good and all things positive. 

When you find yourself approaching the end of your life, if you have regrets by all of the chances you didn’t take, the paths you didn’t follow, the people you passed by for things you didn’t actually want, wouldn’t you feel anger and regret and frustration?  The people you want to be with should be the people you are with.  The career you want to pursue, should be the career you are currently pursuing and the goals you have for your future, should be what you are setting your sights on.  Of course there are going to be people who will have to leave our lives as we make these changes because, let’s face it, getting to where we are in this moment in time involved bringing people into our lives based on decisions that weren’t made with honesty, but if any of these people, be it friends or family, are true to you and your relationship with them, won’t they ultimately want what is best for you?  Won’t they willingly move aside for your happiness?  If the answer to that question is no, then, for me at least, that would bring up an entire barrage of questions about what I was doing with this person and why I was in this situation and, whenever I have done this in the past, very large changes have occurred, each and every one of them for the better.  Coming out of the closet was a huge fear for me, but when I finally met it with honesty and trusted that everyone in my life would understand and would let me be me, they did on both counts.  Those that didn’t are not longer in my life and that is as it should be. 

The people I know who have happy family lives and happy careers are the people who honored what they wanted.  They fought for the love of their lives and they knew early on what career would make them happy and they fought for that.  They fought for a life they wanted and when you do that, you will win.


You only get this one chance so why screw it up with fear?  Be the person you want to be and have the life you WANT to have before it’s too late.  Weigh your decisions based on your ultimate happiness, with honesty, and above-all, with courage…after all, what would Mr. Spock do?


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Saturday, March 25, 2017

SOULEMETRY...

Soulemetry...an odd, yet accurately, amazing word.  What is Soulemetry?  Urban Dictionary.com describes it as follows:
"Soulemetry is when fate brings two completely diverse people together (straight or gay) and they throw out all they know about love and they fall in love with each other."  I first encountered this concept in my favorite, straight-woman-turns-lesbian movie entitled, "Elena Undone."  I was also fortunate enough to meet and have a brief love affair with my split-apart for a time... a beautiful and amazingly blessed time.  This movie was my life...with her.  I love her to this day and I wish we could be with one another, but alas it must not have been meant to be...but I digress.

How amazing would it be to stumble upon the one person in this life or any other, who completes you...right here and right now? Who understands and accepts every aspect of who you are?Indescribable.  Soulemetry is the realization that the person you WANT to be with is the person you MUST be with...the person who speaks to you through a level deeper than verbal communication...deeper than emotional and/or telepathic communication.  This is the person who gets you...from the very soul of who you are....and the one you can be with like no other...not on a level that constitutes the perfect and utter truth in your life.  

While we cannot always be with our split-aparts in this lifetime, whether we find them or not...we can find love for the moment...this moment in time.  The hard part, when you meet your other half, is living without her/him because everything will pale in comparison...I hope you are brave enough in this one lifetime to be honest with yourself and be with the one you share soulemetry with...I promise you you will never find it with another and everyone else will pale in comparison.



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Friday, March 10, 2017

NEVER MET A STRANGER...



People often say to me, "Kimberly, you have never met a stranger" and, I have to say, they are right. We come into this world alone (with the exception of those present at the birth of course) and we leave this world alone.  However, if we are lucky and we make the right choices, we don't have to be alone through the journey, from start to finish. 

Have you ever heard the expression, "You can pick your friends, but you're stuck with your family?"  To that I say...phooey.  I believe you can create your family as well.  I consider some of my closest friends to be my family and in this sense, I get to choose my family.  The one thing that all human beings have in common, is that we are here.  We are all on this journey at the same time and we can choose to know each other, or not.  Being creatures of free will, that decision is a very personal choice.

For me, I find my journey is heightened by the people I meet, whether or not I choose them to be involved in my life on a large scale, or just a fleeting moment.  I believe that every stranger is a potential friend

I have also discovered that if you are one of those people who tend to "judge a book by its cover," you are going to miss out on knowing some rather fine individuals.  Whether meeting people in person, or over the internet, each meeting is a chance to make a new friend, for however long it lasts, and for whatever reason they are meant to play a role, vital or small, in your life.

I love to people-watch wherever I am and I notice that most people tend to walk around in their own little worlds with walls all around them, barely taking the time to look up, meet a stranger's eyes and offer a smile, let alone accept a smile being offered by someone else.  We're all so afraid of something.  It's as though trust has fast become one of those words no longer recognized in the dictionary.  It's understandable, considering all of the trauma our country has gone through as a whole and individually in each city and state, but don't let it take the wind out of your sails.  Each time your eyes meet those of a stranger, you could be looking into the eyes of your new best friend, your soul mate, your future husband, wife or partner or even those of someone who will profoundly touch your life in the blink of an eye. 

So remember the next time you are out in public, to look around you and notice each person.  Offer them a smile and look into their eyes.  Every stranger is a potential friend...don't miss out on a potentially, amazing opportunity.


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Saturday, February 18, 2017

BREAK OUT OF PRISON...

(c) Kimberly Kreations - 02-2017
(c) Kimberly Kreations - 02-2017
If you live a life in which you are predominantly asleep ninety-nine percent of the time (work, home, t.v.), and you feel that nothing good ever happens to you, then it's time to break out of prison...the prison you have made for yourself, whether you knew it was happening or not.  You get this one shot at living your life...why wouldn't you live it to its fullest?  Granted some or most of your self-imprisonment could have been instilled in you during your "formative" years by the people in your life at that time, however how you choose to live now just might be the lock that binds your shackles.

If you have never read or watched The Secret, then you owe it to yourself to do so.  I have spoken about it in past posts, but I cannot stress enough what a great tool it is to help you take that first, all important step to making your life a positive, healthy and prosperous one.


One of my favorite sayings, and I think I love it because I am working so diligently toward it myself, is "Never let your fear decide your fate."  Those of you who know me know that this particular, four-letter, "F" word (fear), is one of the most powerful, potent and damaging words in the English language.  It keeps us from doing so many of the things we want to do.  When we embrace it, generally subconsciously, it keeps us from living life, at all...it keeps us limited and small when we are otherwise meant to be living large, with abundance.  Embrace it and live a life of imprisonment.  As I have said in the past, turning your entire life around can seem a daunting and difficult process, however you CAN do it because you have the power.   Lately I have encountered this topic with others quite frequently, so I thought I would lay out the steps that work for me with the hope that they will help others as well.


STEP 1.  Monitor your thoughts...those which are not positive or self-serving, after a time, will set off an alarm, but to begin with try to write down a thought every time you catch yourself with a negative or damaging thought.

STEP 2.  Know your damage...How do you know if a thought is negative or self-sabotaging?  Sit down and make a list, which helps you to first understand what you are looking for.  We have so many things racing through our brains that we literally need to be monitoring heavily in the beginning in order to put markers on those that hurt us.  Ask yourself if this thought went straight to the negative side of the coin or the positive and how to can turn it around.

STEP 3. Know that thoughts are things...and because of this, and because we are made up entirely of energy (which houses our soul in this realm), what you think about, you bring about.  Do you ever wonder why it is that when you think about a person you haven't heard from or spoken to in a long time that they will contact you in some way or someone else may bring them up in conversation?  It is because you were thinking about them....or why, when your morning starts out a little rough (spilled cereal in your lap, dropped a banana on the floor after you peeled it and broke the heel on your shoe as you were leaving for work), the rest of the day seems to follow?  It's because you took that negative energy and already decided that the rest of your day was going to go just like that...so it will.  What about during an election when the popular person, who has most of the votes and who you know is going to win, will lose to their opponent simply because the oponent is so negative and controversial that everyone's energy was focused upon him/her and their bad behavior.

STEP 4.  Know what you want...This was my toughest one, personally.  I know what I don't want but by thinking those thoughts I bring about the very thing I don't want.  If you are thinking things like, "I don't want to get fat," or "I don't want to have a heart attack," or "I don't want to take this job," then you are increasing the odds that you are going to get fat, have a heart attack, and take that job.  Why?  Because you said or thought the words fat, heart attack and job.  You gave them energy and power they needed to manifest by thinking about them and saying them. Say and think about what you want, i.e. I want to be thin or I want my weight proportionate to my height...I am heart healthy, I have a healthy body...I want money and I want financial freedom.  Is this any easy process to begin?  For some yes, but for most...not even (it wasn't for me either).  It takes time to reconstruct thought patterns that are so automatic, but it can always be done and it is up to you to decide if you find it worth it or not.  I have seen the proof of what positive living can do in my life and I have just barely scratched the surface as I am still working these steps myself.

STEP 5.  Stop complaining...Complaining, whether you do it out loud or just in your head, it draws all of that negativity right into your lap.  If you find yourself in a situation where you would normally say that you don't like something, try stating only the things you do like and go around the outside of the negative thought.  An example might be having drinks with friends after work and a person you don't care for at all (let's call her Cassie) will be there and you find yourself filled with dread.  One way to combat this is to not go, obviously, but that limits you and keeps you from seeing your other friends who you are excited to see, so find the good.  Find the good qualities in Cassie and make those the things you tell yourself, like Cassie might have had a hard life and she doesn't know how to be around people because of it, or that Cassie sometimes she buys the rounds of drinks so she must have a bit of a giving soul.  If you don't know Cassie very well you can make up a positive back story about her and in this way enjoy the evening with the whole group.  There is always a positive way.

One thing that ties all of these things together, is an attitude of gratitude.  BE THANKFUL for all of the amazing and great things in your life...for a healthy body, for the money that comes into your life, for the people you love and those who love you.  Things won't manifest well for you if you are not grateful first for who you are and what you have.  Break out of prison...live your life...your way.

(c)Kimberly Kreations 2017 - My trip to the beach this morning


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Sunday, February 12, 2017

HAUNTED SOUL...


(This is the first acrylic painting I have ever done...I love old and dilapidated buildings, especially barns, so I had to make one the subject of my first painting)

HAUNTED SOUL...


I am a firm believer that within every dwelling people have ever lived or worked or inhabited in any manner whatsoever, they leave behind a little bit of their energy and ultimately a piece of their soul, just by having been inside for whatever reason and for however long.


I have always been intrigued by buildings, the older the better...dilapidated, falling apart and ultimately...haunted, which fascinates the photographer in me...at least one third of all of my work is of dilapidated buildings of one kind or another. I almost feel that I can uncover some of the stories of the things that happened inside. If I have the chance to go inside of one of these places, I will spend hours combing over the marks on the walls, sensing the energies and creating vivid images of who had been there and what had transpired over the years...some of it amazing and some of it...not so amazing.


I love the term haunted. Typically people use it to describe a “ghost” or aparition(s) having been left behind when they died to forever dwell and taunt those who enter. I believe that part of that is true, but moreso I believe that whatever we do, whoever we interact with and wherever we are, we leave a small part of our souls and energy, whether positive or negative at that particular time, in that spot, with that person and in that moment in time. This energy that is left behind in time is what I feel gives a dwelling a soul or an energy of its own...one that you can feel when you enter through it's doors. Whatever happened there through its years, all the positive and negative combined, will reveal its soul to you.


One of my favorite things to research are old and abandoned mental hospitals, and not because I think they were places that many, if any positive things were achieved, but because of how society used to allow (maybe they still do) sadistic assholes to run places like this and torture human beings. I think it's my morbid curiosity. It's as though these places emerged up through the ground straight from hell and masqueraded as legitimate “rest homes” and “mental hospitals”. Most people typically use the term hospital to define a place to acquire help from caring individuals who take care of you and heal you during your time of need. Now I'm sure there are those mental institutions who did/do just that, but let's face it, most of them, especially long ago, were institutions to be feared.


Entering buildings with haunted souls will instantly send a chill up your spine. Everyone who enters can sense the energies that were left inside. For example, when you are looking for a place to live you have to “try on” several abodes before choosing the one that is right for you, but part of that decision-making process is what you feel when you enter, hence the phrase, “This place has good energy.” That doesn't necessarily mean that that will be the case for all who enter...it means that it has an energy that is conducive to resonating on a level that pleases your particular soul.


I think life is like this. As people we absorb energies from the people in our lives and the places we go...those energies then become a part of us in some way and help to shape and mold us into who we are. Sometimes you meet people who seem distant and guarded...as though they have a huge secret to protect. I feel that these are the people who possess haunted souls...as though there is a part of them that will never be revealed, even to themselves. Letting go of the past, letting it remain back there where it belongs, forgiving yourself and those involved, is the only way to ever find peace...yet for some, a very difficult process. People often think that forgiving someone means their actions were okay, but that is far from the truth...foregiveness means just that...you understand that this person is human, that they made a mistake, that they are sorry and have learned from it as have you, but most importantly...it means freedom for you...for you to let go of all ties to past hurts and release your haunted soul. It can be a difficult thing to learn (it has been and still is for me at times), but so liberating and healthy. When I began to teach myself how to forgive, I sat down and made a list of all the people I felt I needed my forgiveness, and why. Thank God it was a small list, but I was astonished by how many of them were from such a long time ago in my life. I then, using a form of quiet meditation, consciously forgave them and let it be okay...telling myself that whatever hurt I felt in the situation was because of my own choices and the fact that I allowed myself to feel hurt in the first place. This has helped me immensely. Again, you don't have to forget as that has nothing to do with forgiveness.


If you feel a part of your soul is haunted, why not take that first step and learn how to forgive...you don't have to forget, but for your sake, try to forgive and let go of all energies that are anything less than 100% positive, loving and liberating. You will be amazed at how wonderfully happy your life will become.






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Sunday, February 5, 2017

PLEASE DO NOT JUDGE ME WITHOUT YOUR CROWN...

PLEASE DO NOT JUDGE ME WITHOUT YOUR CROWN...


Sometimes I think the toughest part of life for some of us, is that of being judged by other people and caring what they think. Am I saying it isn't good to care? Absolutely not for it is an amazing quality to care about others, but I am saying that it isn't good to care more about what other people think of you and your life than you do. Your opinion of everything about you should be the deciding factor in all of your decisions where you are concerned.


I wonder at times, why people, even those who don't really care that much about me, want or need to chime in on my decision-making process without my solicitation of their advice. My answer to this wonderment would be...control. They want or need to feel they are controlling you. Many people have this preconceived notion of who and what you should be and how you should behave and if you deign to go it your own way, doing your own thing, you will be judged harshly, if not completely shunned. To these people I say, please do not judge me without your crown. If you must shun me for who I am, then you are not someone I would care to have in my life anyway. I figure that if I can see their crown, I will know they are the ruler of the country in which I live and that I had better do things their way or risk being beheaded in front of the entire kingdom, including the court jester. This would not be good...(insert laughter here to complete sarcasm).


I recently happened upon this quote by Richelle E. Goodman... “Perhaps, if you weren't so busy regarding my shortcomings, you'd find that I do possess redeeming qualities, discreet as they may be. I notice when the sky is blue. I smile down at children. I laugh at any innocent attempt at humor. I quietly carry the burdens of others as though they were my own. And I say 'I'm sorry' when you don't. I am not without fault, but I am not without goodness either.” I love how she phrased this. It's as though she donned the ready position in a fencing match and drew her epee, yet in a classy and non-confrontational way. Just enough sass to say, I am the whole me and if you are busy judging the outside me then you don't see the whole me.


We are all guilty of judging people just by appearances and possible, quirky behaviors, and most times before we ever get to know them, so, therefore, are we judged by others. Karma and/or the universe states that, “What you put out there is going to come back to you tenfold.” This being the case, the person who has mastered the art of letting others be who they are (without hurting anyone including themselves (my favorite part of Wiccanism)), is someone who is rarely judged harshly by others and who doesn't care about other peoples' opinions of them anyway. This is the person I am diligently working to become.
Steve Maraboli said, “How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative, judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.” Truer words have never been spoken in my opinon. We generally find what we look for so it makes perfect sense that if you seek the good in others, you will find it. Treat people with a sense of decency and kindness and that is what they will return to you....as above, so below and what you put in is what you get out.


People are basically good and I believe that...I think when you present even the most harsh-minded person with reason, they will choose the good over the bad, or the good over the evil (if that terms applies). Many of us don't realize that our harsh judgments hurt us just as much, if not more, than they do the person to whom they are directed. Point a finger at someone and three point back at you...that is the visualization technique I use whenever a judgment flies out of my mouth these days and it has really helped me to see that I have no right to say these things because I don't really know this person and I have flaws like everyone else...we all do, and it's okay. It's okay to be who you are, love who you are, change the parts of you you want to better, eliminate the parts that do not serve you well, and treat everyone with kindness, including yourself.



Going forward, when someone judges you, and they will, ask them to please not judge you without wearing their crown...and please show others the same courtesy in reverse for if you must behave as royalty it is common courteousy to be properly attired.


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Sunday, January 8, 2017

CRAZY IS AS CRAZY DOES...


I love the term, “Crazy.” Its root word, “Craze,” is defined as something of interest that really caught on for awhile...like a fad. I have been “crazy” since birth in all senses of the word...diagnosed with this...afflicted with that...as a matter of fact, my most recent diagnosis was that of OCPD. I'm kind of making it into a contest to see how many diagnoses of psychiatric acronyms I can acquire so that I can string them all together and create an amazing word scramble to use on my Christmas cards...that would be so fun (at least according to my warped sense of humor). I could even write the acronym vertically and morph each letter into a series of words like: One Crazy & Psychotic Dame...oooh that's a good one.


On the plus side however, having been diagnosed with BPD (borderline personality disorder) a number of years ago, and now OCPD (obsessive, compulsive personality disorder), led me to the self-realization that I do have a personality, if not several. I consider that a real accomplishment. Some people never master even one. LOL.


I believe that crazy is as crazy does...I mean, there are various forms of crazy and various interpretations of the word, but I believe it doesn't have to necessarily have negative connotations for those of us who are, what I would term to be “functional,” in the sense that with or without medication we can be valuable and productive members of society....and, because of the crazy, we always have an amazing sense of humor. Did you hear the one about the dry cleaner and the rabi? If we were all born with the same personality and the same sense of “normal” (a term I abhor by the way), the world would be a very, very dull and dry place to live. Can you imagine? Everyone would have the same response and reaction to every situation, much like the movie, The Stepford Wives, a classic which must not go unseen.



Even though there are not many people in this realm who understand or “get” me due to my “crazy,” unique personality and with all of my “quirks,” I have come to love these qualities in myself. I myself love people who identify as crazy and who are so unique the rest of the world just doesn't seem to “get” them. I hope if you possess these qualities in any way, or are close to someone who does, that you will be accepting and loving and above all, tolerant and patient because the person in your life who possesses all this “crazy,” is a person worth loving for all he/she is. Embrace the unique!!!


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Monday, January 2, 2017

A TIME TO EVERY PURPOSE UNDER HEAVEN...

As we progress in age, our acceptance of our mere mortality takes on a new sense of urgency. For most of us this begins at or around turning 50 years young. Suddenly you may find yourself urgently introspective...as though you need to pick the lock of the vault containing all of life's secrets...as though your sanity depends on knowing these answers...and soon. That certainly happened for me, although I have always been introspective, it took on a life of its own when I was 49 and has only progressed into my 50's.

As an avid sleuth and lover of all things puzzle, I like to find answers...we all do...it's human nature, but I also enjoy the journey of discovery. It's part of who we are...we are here to find answers, but not all at once or there would be no life span. Every answer will be revealed, but in its proportionate time. Patience can be the toughest part of all. It's like the bible and the Byrds said, To everything Turn, turn, turn, There is a season Turn, turn, turn, And a time to every purpose under Heaven, A time to be born, a time to die, A time to plant, a time to reap A time to kill, a time to heal, A time to laugh, a time to weep...” Truer words were never spoken. It's as though we know that life slips past us like in the blink of an eye and, being one of, if not the only species that knows it has a shelf life, we feel a sense of urgency to discover our unique purpose and live it out before we pass through to the end of this cycle of life.

Some of us fear the end of our life cycle and some of us embrace it, but do you know what it actually means to die? None of us do...not consciously anyway, but we all have a sense or have had an experience that stays within us and reminds us of who we were and where we were before we were here. “Death,” as we refer to it, isn't an end, but rather a transition toward something new...it is a belief in something else...in a transition...in a new beginning...in another realm, in another plane of existence. Some see this transition as a scary, dark and negative thing, but I know that it's meaning is just the cessation of life as we understand it in this existence only, not all existences...you will not cease to exist, but rather will exist somewhere else.

We all have our own ideas, nay beliefs, as to what death might be, but I also believe we have a sense of what it really is within our souls. Why don't we consciously know for sure? If we knew where we came from within each lifetime, the chances are great that we would either not want to stay where we are now as is meant to be, and/or that we would let who we were then shape who we are supposed to be now. Either way it is best that we not know who or where we were in order to give each new transition a fair chance.

Patience is the key and the most difficult answer for many of us. Waiting for anything requires much patience but these addages ring so very true, “Patience is a virtue,” and “Good things come to those who wait.” The most important part is to recognize and appreciate all the things you have and all the things you are and to be grateful for the journey...live in the now and work toward the future.


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Monday, December 12, 2016

DID YOU KNOW YOU WERE LOST???

(c) 2016 - Coos Bay Marina

When I hear people say, "I need to find myself," I picture them packing up provisions and setting off on a long, complicated trek in dry terrain, leaving no stone unturned until they find their lost soul. My one question is this...why do so many people start this journey, but so few people ever actually find themselves?

When you set out to find yourself, you might want to keep these wise words in mind, "Be careful what you look for, you just might find it." I think the real reason so many people don't actually find themselves when they finally want to is because 1. they don't realize how much work it will actually involve and 2. because they become afraid of what they might find.  

It takes a lot of work to find the real you because you generally have to accept all the parts of yourself...even the bad. Acceptance, even of the things you aren't really happy about, is key...it is the one factor to success in this journey because if you don't accept all aspects of who you really are, you cannot effectively make the changes you need to complete the journey.  You also have to throw fear out of the window (which is a great thing to do in general) and be ready for anything and everything.  If there is fear, there is resistance and back-peddling, which will keep you from your journey and your truth...ultimately from your true path. Be ready to face it all...and you will find it

I am personally so grateful for who I am and what I have and for my life.  I can honestly say that I love my life and I owe it all to that first step I took on the journey to find myself...Is it perfect? Of course not because if it were it wouldn't be necessary anymore.

I hope your journey is an amazing success and that you find the you that makes you happy.



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Thursday, December 1, 2016

SHE IS MY HOME...


Home...a place or a state of being? Some will argue back and forth, but I feel that it can be either...if one or the other works for you...or it can be both. For me, I believe you dwell in a house, but the feeling that you belong there and make it the place you want it to be is what will make it a home. For me, a home is definitely a state of being...for example, I feel at home in my body because of all the work I have done physically and spiritually to find out who I am, make the changes I can make and accept the things I cannot change.


How will you know when you meet the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with...the one person who never leaves your mind, not even for a second, day or night, night or day? The person you want the whole world to know is with you...whose hand you have to hold when you walk anywhere together. How will you know you have found the person you're meant to love rather than loving a person you've settled for because you've maybe lost hope that you would ever find this “meant-to-be” person or you didn't believe in the first place? You will know because she feels like home...(or it may be a “he” for you). Her kiss will melt you in all the right places...all the time...it will fill you with purpose and intent...the purpose of pressing your lips together will not be a mere prelude to sex, but rather the intention of melding your souls...every touch has intention...the intention to express this pure and real love...this feeling of home. You will never feel more alive than you do with her..she is your twin flame (not a soul-mate or soul-sister or any of those other terms...there is a major difference). I have not yet found my "meant-to-be" person...my home with someone else... but I know it will happen.


Home is a state of being, a feeling, a realization and a knowing...it's what the soul wants...what it needs...what it will never fully feel alive without. For me, she feels like home and I can't wait to find my home...what feels like home for you?


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Monday, November 28, 2016

A HALF-EMPTY SOUL


Today I rediscovered a post that had been lingering in my "Drafts" folder from March of 2014, which was just a few months before I moved to Oregon.  The reason I decided to publish it now is that I read it back and realized that I have come so far since the day I had these feelings.  I have become a much more positive person leading a way more positive life and I never knew that would ever happen for me.  I post it today with hope that anyone who reads it, who ever had feelings like these and can relate to this, will know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you can live a positive life, you can loosen up and accept change as it comes, and you can reverse all of your negative patterns and fill your soul with happiness, joy, laughter and all things wonderful...May God bless your life as he has mine.

A HALF EMPTY SOUL
March 2014

How do you fill a half-empty soul? This is the question that has plagued me since I started losing so many close relationships from my life to death and other of life's circumstances.  


I feel as though my body is made up of two giant vials of liquid substance which together, constitute one whole soul; one on the left side, filling up one whole side of my soul, and the other on the right side, doing the same.  I believe that some time before my mom passed, the liquid substance on the right side started to drain and it drained so fast that by the time she actually died, that vial was empty...dry as a bone. That side of my soul had vanished.  I have tried and tried to find people or places or things to fill it back up, and even though some of those people, places and things have been good and added back a little substance here and there, it never stays for long and drains right back out.  

My question?  Where does one turn to seal that leak so the liquid substance can build back up and complete my soul again?  Is it even possible?  Or should I just be accepting of what I've become and learn to live with half a soul.  I think that that would feel like accepting defeat, like I gave up and didn't try hard enough to gain it back.  I long for someone to come along and just say, "Oh, no problem. Here's some caulking for the bottom of that leaky tube and once it dries, go out there and fill it up...it will never leak out again."  Okay, so maybe that isn't a realistic fantasy, but then most fantasies aren't very realistic.  

So then as I see it, my previous attempts at filling this tube back up have been futile because until recently, I never realized that the bottom of the tube was still wide open.  I guess my real goal should not be about filling it up, but sealing the hole on the bottom, which I believe is going to be achieved by learning new coping skills and new ways in which to rebuild a solid foundation.  Once I accomplish that, then and only then will I be able to begin adding liquid substance back into the tube and eventually my soul will be whole again.

Why do I write this?  Because loss is a part of life and we all lose close relationships to either death, or pride, or other circumstances. Hopefully someone will read this and know that if and when it happens to them, (or maybe it already has) don't scramble and try to fill that empty part of you because until you can repair the damage...you will only wriggle in the quicksand and waste your time and effort. Seek out someone who can help shed light on a way to seal that hole and build your foundation so that the good things can come into your life and fill you back up.  This will generally take a lot of time and patience on your part so don't be discouraged. You are strong and you CAN do this...it will all fall into place.

Friday, November 25, 2016

THE LAST WORDS YOU WILL EVER HEAR...

Have you ever had the epiphany that the last words you say to someone, could actually be the last words you will ever say to them and vice versa? Life is so fleeting...so much so that every single moment of your life counts more than you know. Every action, every word toward another human being impacts their life as well as yours.

Are you someone who possesses profound integrity and honesty? If you are then the things you say before you leave a person, either by phone, text, email or in person, will be real...they will be honest...no pretenses, no lies, no games. If not, then the things you say could be based on falsehoods and games and sometimes even harsh emotions from feeling hurt or seeking revenge and other negative emotions. The thing to keep in mind however, is that when you talk to someone, no matter who it is and no matter your fear of their reaction, have the courage to be honest and real and make sure the words you choose represent the depths of what is in your heart. People play so many games and because of that often leave one another from moment to moment with words that were either left unspoken or less than genuine due to fear of the outcome or reaction. Fear can keep you from revealing that you love someone, maybe even more than you are aware...from telling them that you love them with all of your heart...that maybe you are in love with them and to what degree, in which case you will never know what would have happened if you had...what could have been...it will foster regrets.

Something to keep front of mind is the fact that people you cherish in any way could die at a moment's notice, or that you could die...or you might leave each other's lives for other, unforeseen circumstances or reasons. People leave your life for so many reasons...do yourself and the people you love a favor...speak from the heart...reveal everything...fear nothing, and you will live without regret.





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Saturday, November 12, 2016

BEAUTY...DEFINITELY SKIN DEEP...

If you know me, then you know that one of my favorite past times is observing people, be it real life or characters on t.v., and although I have always held to the conviction that beauty is indeed skin deep, it is only lately that I have settled into my own skin enough to realize the validity of this adage.

People who possess courage, kindness and self-confidence are beautiful...period.  It makes no difference what they look like in the body they were dealt...they are beautiful. The more you realize, especially the next time you look in the mirror or deflect a judgment from someone else, that you are the best you you can be and you are so very proud of that, no matter what you look like on the outside, know that you are beautiful and that everyone sees the beautiful person you are...but yours is the only judgment that matters


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