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GRRR...

Anger is such a waste of time and yet still an issue I am resolving myself.  Today I had a great day, but then when I got back to the office after my route, the "new" old employee who I have let under my skin since he was hired back, did some more stupid things that again, I let get under my skin.  Notice the key word in the phrase, "I let get under my skin," is the word I.  I do it to myself.   Once I got home, and the sad part for me right now is that I still haven't made the kind of friends here that I can just call at the drop of a hat and talk to when the notion strikes me...still working on that and it will happen, but I was angry at myself for letting myself get angry over this guy, who is basically an unhappy person.  He is unhappy...and I would venture to say insecure in that he has to prove to everyone he talks to (and he talks all day long) that he knows everything about everything and is right about everything.  I believe he doth protest too muc

EAT A FROG FOR BREAKFAST...

One of the most self-destructive patterns we can exhibit is procrastination. Even though we know that getting those things done that we tend to put off will make our lives easier or healthier or bring us much joy, we still have a tendency to put them off because we just dread doing them. The good news is that there are ways to counteract these procrastinating habits and they are pretty easy to incorporate into your daily life. I recently came upon an article by The Art of Simple (theartofsimple.net) which reminded me of an old saying by Mark Twain that I not only try to live by, but which is very effective when applied, “Eat a live frog every morning, and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.” This article entitled, Start Your Day by Eating a Frog, lays it out pretty well: “M y husband is currently reading a classic business tome called Eat That Frog . The basic idea is that if you do the worst thing on your plate first thing in the morning, the re

DON'T CHEW ON IT...

Why do people tell us not to “dwell on the past,” or that we should “live for the moment and not look back?” Because bringing the past into your current and everyday life is not a healthy choice. So many of us like to chew on yesterday. We like to take our anger or resentment at something a person did or said and chew on it like a piece of gum, over and over, switching from one jaw to the other, blowing the occasional bubble, gnawing at it for hours on end until it loses its flavor. We call that ruminating. Learning to let things go is learning to let go...period. It doesn't mean we should let anyone get the better of us or treat us in a way that takes advantage of us, but it does mean learning to let the small stuff wash right off of your back, otherwise you give power to negative emotions, people and situations which can suck you dry. This being the case, you might ask, “Okay, then why have memories at all? Why are we able to remember the good and bad things that h

I'M SO WORRIED ABOUT THIS...

(c) 2015 Kimberly D Miller Sunset Over Coos Bay You know the phrase, “Don't sweat the small stuff?” I have heard this phrase so many times over the years and had always thought it was a useless and meaningless phrase, until recently that is. It is like someone saying to you, “Well...don't feel that way anymore,” which is really a silly thing to say to someone without first educating them on how to go about it. Logically most of us know that worrying is a useless habit, but a habit none the less. All habits can be broken and the bad habits can be replaced by good habits. We first have to know how to stop sweating the small stuff. I recently read an article by Lindsay Holmes published in the Huffington Post entitled, “How to Stop Sweating the Small Stuff (For Good).” I found this article to be really informative and helpful and wanted to post it here in the hopes that it will help you to not worry: “ We've probably all heard the phrase "don't

TAKE MY HEART...

(c) Kimberly D Miller Barn in Lakeside, Oregon As I sat on the beach eating lunch today, basking in the beauty of the horizon, marveling at how it gently pushed the waves to the shore, I felt so comfortable in my own skin...so at peace and so grateful to be alive. Gazing into the sand I noticed that each individual grain, like each individual human being, is so different from one another and seems so small and insignificant on its own, however all of the grains together make up an entire beach, inasmuch as all human beings make up humanity. I also had a realization that we are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but rather we are spiritual beings having a human experience and in that human experience we are capable of giving and receiving love...how awesome is that? It sets us apart from other species and it is what makes us so unique and wonderful. In that moment I felt a poem enrapture me, longing to jump out onto the blank page before me (poems usually 

FOR MY SAPPHIC SISTERS...

Those who know me know that I live and breathe the written word, especially those of poems. I love to write poetry, sometimes due to the urgency of what wishes to escape my soul in expresion I have to write poetry and am currently working on a book that incorporates my photographs with my poems, more specifically my lesbian poems, which I dedicate to my Sapphic sisters. Not long ago someone asked me about the word Sapphic when I used it in a conversation. It then occurred to me that not everyone may be as big of a Greek Mythology buff as I am, and that prompted me to want to share with you one of my favorite ladies of that era: Sappho (pronounced Saffo ). This short bio from Biography.com doesn't do her much justice, but to delve into what is known about her and her poetry would take literally pages of posting: “ Ancient Greek lyric poet Sappho lived on the island of Lesbos, from which the term lesbian was derived, and wrote poetry expressing her love of women. Synopsis

GO FORTH AIMLESSLY...

So many times in life we yearn for things to change, and yet we often feel we don't know how to get started in the direction of the desired change.  We also lose sight of the fact that change is the center of life so it would stand to reason that things you desire in your current reality are not necessarily things you will want or need for the rest of your life...just for a time.  Sometimes we look back at a change we made and realize it no longer suits us, but that is how it is supposed to be as that change was what you wanted and needed at that particular time in your life. I can remember thinking more often than not, that I would change (this or that) in my life if only I (had more money, had more time, had help, had a partner, had blah, blah blah).  Soon after that thought I would give up because everything felt as though it hinged on having something else that I didn't have.   What I now know from experience is this:  If you go after it, you will obtain it...pe

PICNIC. ..

I brought a picnic lunch to the redwoods today for lunch. ..communing with nature as often as you can is the best way i know to stay grounded and at peace. ..bask in the beauty of all that exists and be grateful

REVERE THE AGED. ..

If there is one lesson that most people find difficult to learn, especially when we are young. It is to learn to revere people who are older and wiser than we are. How many times, as you've grown older have you heard yourself say, "iIf only i had listened to. .. (insert name here)."  The older I get the more I realize that my life would have been so much easier in certain areas had i listened to my mom and dad's advice, as well as that of my grandparents and everyone else in my life who was older. ..had i listened and not thought i knew all there was to know about life at my young age.  The flaw with that theory however is that our destiny is our destiny and we are meant to follow a certain path to get where we need to be,regardless of the advice we choose to heed, but i do believe the path will lead to the same place whether we choose to take the easy road or the hard road. ..that is where the choice lies.  In the past it seems i have frequently chosen the

I WANT YOU TO STRIP...

 (c) 2015 Kimberly D Miller Calm down...I don't mean that you should strip and take your clothes off for anyone...lol. I am referring, in the physical realm only to strip your life of "things" and in the emotional realm, to strip yourself of anything that isn't beneficial in your here and now. One of the things I had to do to move out of my old life and into my new, was to sell off practically everything I owned...my house, all of the stuff in my house including all of the antiques I had spent years collecting, clothes, tools, and anything else that wasn't nailed down in order to obtain enough money for this giant change I needed to effectuate.  For me, especially at the time, this was SO hard to do because I needed my things, at least that is what I told myself because I spent so many years collecting them all and making sure my house was all I wanted it to be and that I was surrounded by "stuff" that made me happy. When I finally arrived at m

DATE YOURSELF...

(c) 2015 - Yachats, Oregon Something i have learned as I age is that you should take yourself out on dates from time to time and enjoy your own company. .. While i realize that some people have a difficult time doing things alone I am hopeful that those of you with that fear will from time to time, force yourself out of your comfort zone more often than not and just pick up and go and do things that you have always wanted to do or just enjoy doing and take those day excursions and take yourself out for a meal or a show or both. .. Today i took myself far north up the coast of Oregon and rode horses on the beach in Florence then further north for wine tasting and dinner in Yachats...i even found a sinfully delicious Oregon wine called Passion...right up my alley...yeah, 2 bottles made their way home with me. .. Whatever or wherever you enjoy ...go do it and take yourself out for the day. ..i know you will discover a part of you that you love spending time with.

DO YOU HAVE CHANGE...

(c)2015 Kimberly D Miller It's inevitable, it's coming, every day in every way and you cannot stop it no matter what you do...it's CHANGE.   Merriam-Webster defines the word Change as follows: 1 a   :   to make different in some particular  :   b   :   to make radically different  c   :   to give a different position, course, or                 direction to We all want it and we all fight it.  If not for change the world would be such a dull place.  Some of it is positive and some of it is not always so pleasant but the world is as we make it so it can all be positive in some way if we choose to see it that way.  I recently read an article by Rhonda Rabow, M.D. entitled, "Learn 5 Simple Steps to Making Lasting Changes." I thought she had a lot to offer on the subject and so I am posting it below for your perusal.  She makes a lot of really great points and offers some great steps to try.  I like that she talks about accepting change as what

DO YOU HAVE IT TO GIVE???

(c)2015 Kimberly D. Miller This morning I was perusing through some literature on humanity and I came across a passage by Joyce Meyer, who is one of my all-time favorite ladies.  She said: "When Jesus talked about the greatest commandment of all, He quoted Deuteronomy 6:5 and said we are to love God with all our heart. But He also added the second greatest commandment:  You shall love your neighbor as yourself.  (See Mark 12:31.) There's something important here that I think people often miss:  You cannot give away something you don't have in you.  How can someone love another person if they don't love themselves? “ You cannot give away something you don't have in you. ” We all need to accept ourselves, embrace our personalities and even our imperfections, knowing that although we are not where we  need  to be, we are making progress. Jesus died for us because we have weaknesses and imperfections, and we don't have to reject ourselves because of t