I find it odd as to how much people are willing to do, I mean go way out of their way several times daily, just to make sure they are liked by certain people, if not all people. Yes, "Him just wanna be loved," but at what cost? Generally the sacrifice is that of one's self. Too high a price to pay? I say, "Hell Yes!"
Why do we think it's just fine to please others before we please ourselves? Why sacrifice our own happiness just to "make" others like us, and let's face it, we really don't have that control. An example would be: I know a person who actually does not like to gossip, but they get really good at it because it makes them popular with a certain crowd in the work place. What they don't realize often enough though, is that it makes them unpopular with the majority of people in the workplace and for someone who wants to be liked so much you would think that that would be a deciding factor.
At some point this betrayal becomes so convoluted that you may even start to believe that this version of who you let yourself become, is actually who you are. You have lost sight of your true values and inner integrity. You keep your word to your so-called friends, but not to anyone else and certainly not to yourself. It's no wonder you don't like who you are when you aren't very nice to yourself and you put yourself last.
If this sounds like you, do not despair because it is never too late to turn it around. Start the day by looking in a mirror, any mirror, and ask yourself this question, "Do you like me?" I guarantee that the majority of the people who try this exercise will answer, "No." Continue this exercise as often as possible until you can stare at this person and do it without judgment and criticism. Stare at this person and say only nice and positive things about him or her. It helps starting out if you put sticky notes all around the mirror with only positive words or quotes on them. If you define who you are by other peoples' judgments of you, then you will never know you and that is not only a huge loss, but also a silly sacrifice.
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