You Have To Suffer A
Break…
©June 13, 2019 –
Kimberly D. Miller
We all want to be
the best version of ourselves, whether it’s the healthiest weight, the best
job, the most organized, etc., but we also know what an enormous feat this can
be to achieve. How many times have you
vowed to make healthy changes in your life, promised yourself that you were
going to do better, to be better and make better choices? How many times have you started out, gung ho,
ready to kick ass and take names and hit the ground running, only to find that
you get part way there and fail? Almost
every one of us will have the same answer to these questions…”every single time.” If this is you, don’t worry, you are not
alone.
It makes us want to
give up because every time we start out with good intentions, we seem to fall
flat on our proverbial faces and then frustration sets in and then we just throw
our hands up in the air and have a glass of wine and watch a movie (or maybe
that’s just me J). What’s missing from the formula people use
when they try to change; why does it seem they go about it backward? Most people think you just have to do the new
habit, eat the new foods, put a few things back after you use them or search
the want ads a few minutes each day, but this kind of thinking is counter-productive
in that they are missing one very important step. What is that step you ask? Well, be patient, I am getting there…lol (but
patience is a huge maintenance component and not one to be missed). That step is the willingness to break the old
habits first. Many of us try to lose
weight while still putting 3 spoons of sugar in our coffee because we aren’t
willing to “give up our ‘one’ luxury”, but if you don’t first break the habit
of putting 3 spoons of sugar in your coffee, you can’t expect the weight to
come off…at all. If you still drink soda
(especially “diet” soda (what an oxymoron)), you can’t expect to see the pounds
just melting away. Most people wish to
eliminate clutter and chaos from their lives, but they aren’t willing to part
with “sentimental” things, even though pretty much everything that clutters
their lives has become “sentimental” at some point, which is why they still
have it. They must first be willing to
break the habit of attaching sentimental value to inanimate objects in order to
let go of the clutter and chaos in their lives (as a Professional Organizer I
would say this is the most common habit I see and this was also a huge change I
had to make in my own life).
Is any of this easy
to achieve? HELL NO!!! It’s the most difficult thing in the world to
effectuate this kind of change because it has taken years upon years to build the habits that have led us to our weight gain, our clutter and ultimately
our depression, that they can never be rectified over night. It may take years upon years upon years to
get the new habit even sparking in your brain at all, but when it does,
wow…it’s like the light finally just came flooding into your life and
everything is good and bright and easy. The
people who have the most difficult time are those who may not want it badly enough…it’s like they think they should want it, or their doctor has told them
they need to want it, or a partner/spouse has strongly suggested they want it, but
deep down they really don’t, so they put in minimal effort and expect to receive
maximum results, but the sad truth is that it just doesn’t work like that. If you want to lose the weight, you must not
eat the carbs, and you must eliminate the sugar from your coffee and be willing
to want this change that will occur in your life to better yourself. It is my considered opinion that you will not
receive the results you desire unless you want it badly enough. You will reach your goals only when you
finally say to yourself, “I don’t care what I have to do to change this, I’m
just done feeling bad all the time.” Let’s
face it, we judge ourselves every minute of every day and most of us judge
ourselves so harshly that we fail to live up to our own expectations and
therefore tend to give up too easily, most often before we even get
started. When you really want it, you will
achieve it!
The success stories
I have seen and even those I’ve managed to make in my own life have been those
made through the willingness to first break the old habit while replacing it
with the new. One of the keys to making
this happen is to think of this change as just that, a change…not an
elimination. For example, I never diet,
I change my eating habits and my lifestyle around which food revolves. I change the way I organize the things in my
life so the flow is beneficial and the material objects (which can actually
suck energy right out of you, FYI) are minimal and necessary. I’m sorry to tell you but Marie Kondo is an
entertainer and the reason you have clutter in the first place is because you
kept all of the things that “brought you joy.”
Don’t even get me started on that show…(insert grumbly face here).
When it comes right
down to it, you have to suffer a break (of old habits) in order to make the changes you want in
your life. It is never easy, but it is
always worth it.
I wish you patience, self-love, and all good
changes,
Kimberly ~ Simply Organized 4 Life
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