"Many
people stay in jobs or relationships where they are unhappy out of
primal fears of survival. For these individuals it is nearly
impossible to trust that they will be taken care of and that there
may very well be a better opportunity around the corner. Learning to
TRUST
and SURRENDER are
big hurdles to overcome. Although they feel underpaid or are grossly
unsatisfied with employment, the threat of an unknown future keeps
them frozen in the status quo. When we become fear-frozen in our
putrid situations it should be no surprise when sickness surfaces.
Ill-nurturing environments will affect our health and well-being.
Sickness and pain
in our bodies are signs telling
us that we cannot be "well" while remaining in toxic
relationships or
continue working under poor conditions.
Sickness
Can Be Our Hero, rescuing us from places and situations we don't what
to be in.
A
person may very well become so ill that they can no longer work his
job and he will find himself unemployed. A few years ago I met a
woman who was no longer able to work because her body had become
consumed by a rare cancer. Although she was unhappy to be so ill, she
wasn't completely miserable. She was greatly relieved that she no
longer had to go to work every day and do a job she disliked. Her
illness also afforded her a monthly disability check. Not working
allowed her time to take up endeavors that suited her better than her
old job ever did. A few months before she died she told me that she
felt she had what it took to beat
the cancer that
was eroding her body. In fact, she had experienced remission a few
times. But what haunted her most as each remission occurred was a
gnawing fear deep inside that she might get well and that her
disability checks would stop coming. Those checks afforded her the
luxury to spend her days doing the things she enjoyed doing the most.
Hers was a situation where her cancerous body allowed her an avenue
to leave a job she despised and felt imprisoned by. She didn't have
the fortitude to leave on her own. Instead, a deadly illness was her
get-out-of-jail card. When the woman crossed over I was not convinced
that cancer is what took her life, I feel it may have been her fears.
Perhaps it was the physical body itself that she really wanted to
leave behind.”
Every
time I have put myself into situations I have not felt good about and
have not pulled myself out of them in time or have believed I did not
deserve any better, I would come down with an affliction or disease
(dis-ease). I then went a step further and realized that whenever I
was feeling as though I was not making any progress toward my
positive goals and changes in life it was because I was feeling
“stuck” in a rut, which is actually the cause of so many negative
influences in our lives. This next article by Hannah
McNamara entitled, “Are You Stuck In a Rut? Tips on Motivation
and Breaking Free,” is amazing. She really leads you to identify
how to break free of the feeling of being in a “rut” and how to
identify it. When you realize things that are happening to you, i.e.
bringing the subcounsious thoughts to the conscious mind, you can
then take action toward correction and positive change:
How
often do you leap out of bed excited about what the day will bring?
Do
you know exactly what you'll be doing next week - because it's
exactly the same as what you did this week? Could you be suffering
from SIAR Syndrome?It's the hidden syndrome that can leave you tired, listless and frustrated. It strikes down both the young and the old, the rich and the poor. Talked about in hushed tones with trusted confidantes, it's the affliction that leaves victims asking, "Why me?"
But for sufferers, there is light at the end of the tunnel because SIAR Syndrome can be avoided and its effects eliminated. If the following sounds familiar, you too could be a sufferer without even realising it: When your friends ask you what you're up to, do you reply with something along the lines of "Oh, you know, same old, same old"? If doing the same thing over and over again is making you happy, great! But if it's not, maybe now's the time to do something about it, because the chances are you've caught it -SIAR, or Stuck-In-A-Rut Syndrome.
Breaking out of a rut can be tricky. It can mean changing habits, making uncomfortable decisions and committing to doing things differently. But it can also be liberating, invigorating and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner!
Whether you're stuck in a rut at work or in your personal life, it's worth bearing in mind this quote from well-known author and speaker on personal development, Anthony Robbins:
"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten."
How many times do we do the same things over and over again and expect to get different results? In business, we might, for example, keep doing the same Marketing we've always done, yet expect the results to be better than they were last time. In our personal lives, we might walk into the same set of circumstances we've had before, yet expect things to be better this time.
But there is something even worse than being a sufferer of SIAR Syndrome...being a carrier. You know the people I'm talking about, don't you? "That'll never work" and "play it safe" are some of their favourite sayings. Stuck in a rut themselves, they can't bear the thought that someone else might break free of it. But with so many people stuck in a rut, surely it should have some good points, shouldn't it?
Let's have a look at the Pro's and Con's of being stuck in a rut:
Pros:
- It's
comfortable
- It
doesn't take much effort
- You
know what to expect
- It's
easy to surround yourself with like-minded people
- There's
less chance of making a mistake
- It
makes life boring and predictable
- You
feel that life is passing you by
- It
can leave you wondering where your life has gone
- You
could look back and wonder about the what-if's
- It
can be scary even thinking about breaking out
Do any of them involve changing something? Do ALL of them involve changing something? Does it make you excited or nervous? A way to tackle nerves is to break the change down into its component parts to discover exactly what it is that's making you nervous. Sometimes nerves can kick in when you're doing something that you've never done before and that can lead to procrastination, one of the symptoms of SIAR syndrome. Once you know exactly what's making you nervous, dig deeper and ask yourself "what is it about xxxx that's making me nervous?" Then you'll be able to think about ways of overcoming it.
Interestingly enough, the same symptoms of nerves - shortness of breath, racing heart beat and thinking fast - are the exact same symptoms of excitement. It's all down to how you frame them in your mind. Next time you think you're nervous, tell yourself it's excitement and you'll make the experience a whole lot more enjoyable! You might even crack a smile!
Breaking out of a rut is a lot easier when you've got someone guiding you through it. Working with a life coach or business coach is a little like working with a personal trainer - your coach will motivate and push you to do more than you'd do alone. Plus, because they're outside of your normal circle of friends and contacts they can offer a fresh perspective on things. Break free!! Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/148577.”
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