PEOPLE WHO LOVE DIFFERENTLY...

I don't know who ever came up with the term, “normal,” as I am sure it was some psychotherapist way back when, but it is one of the most hateful words on the planet. This word should not even exist in such an eclectic world where no two individuals are alike. It has created a paradigm in which people try to fit in and in doing so, change who they really are inside. I find this so, so sad. Now, if you want to be who you are you have to go against this paradigm because it has been widely accepted as the standard of who you “should” (another hated word of mine) be. Most people are afraid to go against anything and will therefore live a life they were not meant to live, never being true to who they are inside...I hate fear.


We don't all love the same. I mean, we do, but we don't. We all love...that is a given and a basic instinct. In fact, it is what we strive for, to love and be loved so why then does it have to have so many rules? Why make it so difficult?


I love differently. In other words, I go against the “normal” way for a woman to love because I love the person. It matters not to me whether a person is a male or a female, it matters to me what they hold as values and how they treat themselves as well as others... if they are decent, respectful, positive, loving, caring, carefree, fun, full of life and love me in the same way as I love them.


I have to say though, that my greatest experiences have been with women and, although I don't often refer to myself as a lesbian because I hate labels and I love a person not a gender, I do have a propensity toward relationships with women. For me, they are the more comforable of the two. It feels so great for me to be able to share not only genuine human traits, but those only another woman can understand and/or appreciate in a woman.


I once saw a movie in which the heroines were lesbians and there was this line, “here is to people who love differently,” and I thought to myself, that's an odd phrase. It isn't possible to love differently, I mean love is love, loving is loving, giving love and receiving love are just that. The only reason they used a phrase like this is because of the word, “normal.” If it isn't normal for two people of the same sex to love one another, then they must love differently. To this I say, bullshit. I don't love any differently than anyone else. I may love to different degrees than other people, for I consider myself to be a very passionate person and I love from the depths of that passion, but differently? Not possible.



My point here is this: If you love someone you love them. It's beautiful. Don't label it...don't choose it based on gender...don't belittle it...don't overthink it...don't underestimate it. Do fall into it...do enjoy the hell out of it...do love with all of your heart...do find the passion...do live for it and most of all...do be true to you in your heart of hearts and depths of your soul. Leave the word “normal” out of your vocabulary, screw what others think of you for in the end the only thing that matters is what you think of yourself. No one has to live with who you are , more than you do. Short change that and you will never, ever find the real you before you leave this earth which will in turn result in a wasted journey.

***After having published this post I heard about the Supreme Court's ruling on same-sex marriage and I would just like to say...IT'S ABOUT TIME AND THANK YOU!!!  June 25, 2015 will go down in the history books as a very triumphant day***


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