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A TIMELESS LIFE...

Photo (c) Kimberly D. Miller 04-2018 Being a deep-thinker can make for an exhausting and lonely life at times, but I've come to realize that I am a person of ideas and I have so many of them that they are literally bursting to make their way out of my crowded, crazy mind (insert infamous grin here). Yesterday, while in the middle of a coaching session, I realized that I repeatedly hear this phrase from people, “There's not enough time.” From there I began to ponder and wondered, what if it wasn't about time? What if there were no calendars or clocks or watches? What would the world be like? The answer? R * E * L * A * X * E * D. Of course it would be very negative for the economy because there may not be one, but for our mental health, it would be amazing. Imagine it. Going to bed when you felt like it, waking up...whenever, working when it was convenient to do so, or if you even wanted to, but there are no calendars so you'd never know if it we

IT'S BLACK OR WHITE...IT'S ALL OR NOTHING...IT'S B.P.D...

Photo (c) Kimberly D. Miller - 4/23/18 IT'S BLACK OR WHITE...IT'S ALL OR NOTHING...IT'S B.P.D... Over the course of the last two decades (okay, maybe a few extra years as well), I have been diagnosed a few times by various counseling-type people, as having Borderline Personality Disorder. Is this an illness? Most say yes...I say no...it is a severe form of dis- “ease,” especially since anxiety is a prominent symptom and one in and of itself which deprives one of ease. How is it that you are going along in life, thinking everything is great and then you realize that, not only are you not like everyone else around you, but you are so far removed that you are in a whole other category of uniqueness and “weirdness.” You find that you want so badly for a relationship to work and for it to be a healthy relationship with the woman of your dreams (for me at least, for you it could be a man), and every time you try, you sabotage it because no people on this plan

IF YOU KEEP LOOKING BACK, YOU’LL SPRAIN YOUR NECK…

(Photograph (c) Kimberly D Miller 03/2018) Does our past define us? It shouldn’t, but for many it absolutely does and that my friend, is a very unhealthy way to define a future. We are able to remember past events, not as a way to build walls against negative results toward similar situations, but to guide us forward…to act as a contrast between positive decisions and those of a negative variety. Have you ever noticed that you just can’t remember parts of your childhood, either until someone else talks about an incident or a similar situation arises in your present to jog your memory? Some memories, mainly negative in nature, are so deeply embedded in us due to years of not dealing with them because they were suppressed at the time for our protection, that we tend to forget they are down there and then, one day, WHAM, they pop up at what feels like, the worst possible moment. Once the memory is back it reminds us that, “Oh yeah, the last time this happened it was terr