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The quote above reads, “A positive mind finds opportunity in everything while the negative mind finds fault in everything.”  This quote in conjunction with a quote by Novelist Jonathan Safran Foer, “These little daily choices that we’re so used to thinking are irrelevant are the most important things we do all day long,” had me thinking about a conversation I had recently as to how so many people, especially in our society, find fault in everything, with the attitude that it doesn’t matter because it is such an “everyday” choice, a small choice at that, and then wind up in a position of frustration, anger, anxiety or just feeling like they are butting their head against the wall (sorry for the run-on sentence).   Because it is true that like attracts like, then it stands to reason that when people inject negativity into each decision they make, no matter how small, they are going to end up with negative results.  Judge a person or a situation harshly and negatively, and they


How wanted do you feel in your relationship?  How about in your life in general?  I found this quote on Always Positive and shared it with a friend of mine who is having some relationship issues: “There’s a difference between somebody who wants you and somebody who would do anything to keep you.”  I decided that that is the relationship I want to end up with…the one in which somebody would do anything to keep me, because then I would know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the love and desire, the friendship and passion in the relationship was real and we would both work hard on making it work.  I would know that the gestures I put toward romance are appreciated and reciprocated.  One day soon I will find the one woman on the planet who is willing to go the distance with me and work hard on resolving all of our differences on an ongoing basis with open communication, but until then, I now know that I  want me and that’s enough for now. Are you in a relationship in which you both


FACE YOUR REALITY SQUARELY… There is a quote from Buddha which states, “All human unhappiness comes from not facing reality squarely, exactly as it is.”  It was no accident that I recently stumbled upon this quote as it was perfect for the post I was going to write today.  Every one of us lives in what I like to term…our own reality.  Yes, we have the illusion of sharing the same “world” with everyone else in this plane of existence, but what we do, see, hear and interact with is what we  make it and how we  interpret it, thereby creating our own reality.  Having said that, the moral of this post is to learn to face what is…right now, in the here and now, owning up to the things that need to be changed and those you can change on your own. Sometimes people have a tendency to look outside of their world for answers, however, often this is a misplaced or misguided “solution.”  Did you ever hear anyone say, “You only hurt the ones you love?”  People throw these words around al


Do you ever have feelings or thoughts that aren't quite clear? Almost as though you have a deep desire to express and/or define them, but so unsure as to how to pinpoint them?  I find the older I get, the more this occurs and I need to find a way to get them out.  One solution I have discovered that works well for me when I feel "stuck" like this, is to find quotes and poems that speak to my heart and soul.  Today I was browsing through my own private library of quotes and poems and came across some of my favorites by Charles Bukowski:  “I've never been lonely. I've been in a room -- I've felt suicidal. I've been depressed. I've felt awful -- awful beyond all -- but I never felt that one other person could enter that room and cure what was bothering me...or that any number of people could enter that room. In other words, loneliness is something I've never been bothered with because I've always had this terrible itch for solitude. It'


Photo (c) 2017 Kimberly D Miller PASSION-IT… © Kimberly D Miller - August 17, 2017 Passion…it’s in everything you feel…everything you love and everything you hate.  It’s what drives us.  You can feel good and positive passion like love and lust, happiness and desire, and you can feel negative and harsh passion like hate, anger and frustration.  It’s a broad spectrum. Most people are under the assumption that passion is all about love and lust and sex and fun emotions like that and, while this is partially true, most people don’t realize that when you are frustrated with someone or angry with someone that you love, it also comes from a place of passion.  Every thing worthwhile in life must first begin with a passion for it/him/her.   As we begin to fall in love with someone, our passion for them as a person must grow in order to effectuate real and total love and, without the passion, you have a deep “like” at best.  Have you ever felt the difference between making lov


Photo by Kimberly D Miller 2017 HOW FAT IS FAT… (c) Kimberly D. Miller 08/2017 At what weight are we defined as fat?  I was thinking about this this morning and finally realized what a relative word the word “fat” is.  We tend to let society dictate who we are so much these days that most of us have lost sight of what is truly important in being alive, because body weight and appearance certainly is the least of it.  I was looking in the mirror after I got dressed for work this morning and was thinking, wow, I have to lose weight again, as if it ever stops, and then I thought, what the hell, I don’t know anyone else on the planet who has anything negative to say about my weight, so why should I?  Then I realized that I also tend to attract to curvy women.  I am seldom attracted to women with straight and petite figures, so why would I not accept this in myself?  I am 55 and prouder every day of who I have become and who I am still working to become as I see amazing and wo