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THREE STEPS TO GAIN CONFIDENCE...

  THREE STEPS TO GAIN CONFIDENCE... We are all born with confidence, but at some point in our lives (for some of us) something can take part or all of that confidence away from us, leaving us empty and vulnerable. Is it a life sentence? Some think so, but I know it to be nothing more than a temporary set back. Confidence is a precious commodity for the soul and because of that, we need it to be who we were born to be. Sometimes however, we have to fight to gain back control over the things we feel we have lost and when we feel we have lost all or part of our confidence, the battle can feel like fighting for a lost cause. One thing to remember is that we were all born with confidence. We never really lose it because it is always there for the taking, but it can be misplaced and/or dormant within us. Do you ever feel that the nicer you are, the more people take advantage of you? I used to feel like that all the time. I had little to no self-confidence most of my young li

IT'S ALL ABOUT THE KISS...

I was talking to a friend of mine that I haven't seen in awhile on the phone last night for about 2 hours and, because she is one of those people I can talk to about any and every subject, we always cover the topic of sex.  One thing she asked me was, "If you were with the woman of your dreams (we were also on that subject...lol) and were only allowed to do one thing of an intimate nature with her that day, which would you rather do...hold hands, have sex, or kiss?" My answer?  I'll take the kiss for 500, Alex.  Hands down, every time (okay, not EVERY time, cuz I need the other two in a bad way also...lmao.) She, of course, wanted to know why I chose the kiss, so I had to explain to her that for me, the kiss is where the passion lies and I am all about the passion in life...all areas of life.  A kiss is the intimacy, the raw, animal connection between two people that, when a deep connection exists, is like no other area in life.  You can have sex with just about an

FIVE STEPS TO FIND THE SPARE CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE...

Do you ever want things to happen in your life but you just don't know how to go about making them happen? Do you ever say things like, "My life would be so great if _____ would happen?" I love this quote by Steve Jobs: “For the past 33 years I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself, 'If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?' And whenever the answer has been NO for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” Look how successful he is in all areas of his life today, simply because he asked himself that question every morning and then had the courage to take the risks and chances to effectuate the changes he wanted in his life. He didn't sit around the house saying, “I can't do this or I can't do that.” He knows, like each and every one of us knows (if not only in our subconscious minds), that we CAN make the changes we want to see in our lives and that absolutely EVER

DID YOU EVER WONDER...

Tonight I was looking through my blog posts, back through January's past, and came upon this post from January, 2009. Dilapidation is still a favorite subject of mine in all shapes and forms...take a look: Click this link to check out my dilapidation collection Click this link to check out my dilapidated doors and windows collection DID YOU EVER WONDER... Did you ever come across an old, run down building or discarded suitcase or other old item, and wonder what story it could tell if it could talk? I wonder about things like this all the time, hence my interest in taking pictures of dilapidation.  I was driving through  McNeal , Arizona one weekend and on the way home there were so many old, falling down buildings and barns like this that I Just couldn't resist stopping in the middle of the highway to take pictures from the truck. Thank God it is a pretty lonely highway or I would have caused some serious accidents. I think there is a part of me, maybe

REVEAL YOUR INNER WEIRDO...

Inside each and every one of us lives a weirdo. I can't even count how many times throughout my life I have been called a weirdo and, in the beginning I took it as an insult, but have since learned that it is the highest form of compliment and I am proud to be one. What, you may ask, is your inner weirdo? Your inner weirdo is the real you...the quirky you...the you that most people keep hidden and only reveal occasionally to a few trusted individuals for fear of being judged and not accepted by others (there's that horrible fear factor again). Unique is beautiful (no, not Monique...unique). Some people feel that those of us who don't or won't blend in with the pack, so to speak, are weird and therefore...not like the others (I loved that song on Sesame Street...one of these things is not like the others...lol).  I was always kind of a loner a child and could never really identify with the other kids. I think I had the realization most heavily that I was "not l

WHAT DO YOU EXPECT...

I have written many posts on expectations, but this is a subject that cannot be over-emphasized in the quest for a positive life filled with happiness and ease. In a world in which our time is limited, expectations rank right up there with the number one time waster (number 1 being worry ). Yesterday, three people who I cherish dearly either hit me with their expectations or had a hard day feeling let down by their expectations. While it is natural to feel that people should  behave in a certain way based on your actions toward them, it is unreasonable and such a waste of time and energy to think that they will do so, much less do so every time. We all want to think that because we would react a certain way toward a friend or loved one that they will in turn either return the favor or respond in the way in which we thought they should  Then, if they don't, we feel let down and have anger or hostility toward them, even if just for a short time.  When the situation is reversed

YOU...

-YOU- (c) 01/2016 Kimberly D Miller I stand back on the beach in awe of the sight of the salt-laden waves crashing to the shore,  yet they pale in the unique artistry you bring to the definition of femininity. .. Your soul emanates purity and honesty and in my eyes you can do no wrong for when I'm with you I lose sight of all else. With a single glance you bathe me in your poetic love,  no confusion, no shrouding, I can clearly see. .. You stand by me through thick and thin. I no longer know where you stop and I begin. ..I cease to be me when I'm with you for together we are us, hearts, minds, bodies and souls reunited as one from another realm of existence. It takes my breath away and becomes my life, all of it, for I long for you and I'm drowning in such gratitude for this gift... We hold the illusion that we can break free but we never will. ..it's bigger than anything we have ever known and defines the eternity from which we will never

HAVE A FANTASY...THEY'RE FREE...

In a world where hard times abound, one thing is for sure...no one can take away your hopes, your dreams and your fantasies. My heart and soul are constantly feeding my head with dreams and fantasies and, even through what I considered to be the toughest times in my life, no one has been successful at destroying them...though many have tried. Affirmations will get you what you want in life and fantasies and dreams are affirmations of your wants and desires so, the more you dream about the positive wants and desires, the more you draw them to you. If you have dreams about changing your life and taking a new and positive path, you will make that happen by keeping those dreams alive.  If you fantasize about a life where everything is easy and exciting and free (my personal favorite), you will draw it to you faster by constantly fantasizing about the details in that life and your feelings about how deeply you want it.  Fantasies come to fruition much faster when you are truly gr

IT'S NONE OF MY BUSINESS...

Thanks to my friend Trish who is probably one of the most successful people I know when it comes to profound integrity (and I very much value her guidance in my life), I now know the power of the phrase, "It's none of my business." She mentioned this phrase to me awhile back during one of our conversations about bringing profound integrity into our lives.  I was pondering an issue at the time, wrestling with myself over trying to help and/or change someone who I thought needed my help.  As it turns out, when I was able to apply the, "It's none of my business," principle to the mix, it took so much stress out of the equation and my friend worked the problem out in her way and in her time, which was best for her. I used to try so hard to please people (a version of the old me that I am so glad I changed for the better) and I would constantly offer help to people who didn't necessarily want it and usually didn't ask for it.  I guess I thought that

TICK TOCK, TICK TOCK, TICK TOCK...

Time is one of those concepts  that you, and only you, can determine in your life. How often have you said, “I just didn't have the time,” or heard the excuses, i.e., “I would have come by and helped you (called you, visited you, etc.) but I just didn't have the time.” One of my personal favorites is, “I didn't get anything done this week…I just didn't have the time.” Really? NO time? Whatsoever? My philosophy is this, if you think you don't have the time or feel you don't have the time, then probably you are taking on more than you need to be taking on in your life, whether by choice or not. Let's face it…sometimes it's hard to use the word, “NO” often enough. I'm one of those people who likes to help other people so of course, when asked to lend a hand, time or no time, I always say, “sure.” It took me a lot of years, but I have recently learned a polite way to say, “I'm sorry, I have other plans that day,” or things of that nature, just s

DON'T BE AFRAID TO GO INSIDE...

This was originally posted on 12/21/2011...I was looking back at the progress in my life and could see so much growth from this post... I'm sure you've heard the adage, "When one door closes, another door opens."  It seems this has been happening around me my entire life, but I just didn't have the insight to see them as doors.  I think I was so busy worrying about things like: how to keep money coming in for the mortgage and utilities (not to mention the 900 credit card bills), gas for the vehicles, food for my son and I, etc.  Those of you who have followed my blog (my apologies for not keeping it up lately) know that my son and I lost our home recently and through all that trepidation still came through with so many positive things due to doors opening when others were slammed shut.  It was then that I realized that worrying does nothing but give you heartburn and indigestion, not to mention unsightly wrinkles on your face (and other places too odd to

YOU MAKE ME FEEL...

Ophir Beach - 1/4/2016 YOU MAKE ME FEEL… If ever there was a toxic way to begin a sentence, it would be the following four words, “You make me feel…”  Wow, if only we could make every person feel the way we wanted them to feel, wouldn’t that be a great power to possess? We could make people fall in love with us, make them feel sad when we feel sad so our misery would have some company; make them feel remorse when we feel hurt by our faulted expectations of their actions, make them feel happy when they are down and the list goes on and on. One of the healthiest attitudes we can adopt is the realization that our feelings are our own and that they reflect our image of our lives and our circumstances.  There is a saying that goes, “No one can make you feel…without your permission.”  That statement is golden in my book. It has been my experience that whenever I have felt let down by someone it has been because I had expectations of how they would/should react to the situation

A BRAVE NEW YEAR...

To start the new year off with a positive bang, I went on a quest for the most uplifting and somewhat profound quotes I could find about life.  I hope they will inspire you: “Kissing - and I mean like, yummy, smacking kissing - is the most delicious, most beautiful and passionate thing that two people can do, bar none. Better than sex, hands down.”   ― Drew Barrymore   (I SO feel this way about kissing...I love that she phrased it like this) I discovered  these inspirational quotes at  http://livelifehappy.com/live-life-quotes/   1. ”There will be haters, there will be doubters, there will be non-believers, and then there will be YOU, proving them all wrong.” 2. “And I understand. I understand why people hold hands: I’d always thought it was about possessiveness, saying ‘This is mine’. But it’s about maintaining contact. It is about speaking without words. It is about I want you with me and don’t go.” 3. ”Being classy is NOT about being stuck up, but more so about h