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A CHILD'S LOVE...

When we are blessed with children we don't get the memo pre-birth about just how quickly our time with them will fly by, but if we do everything we can to love and nurture them, we will never lose them from our lives when they become adults. I am so blessed that my son is not only in my life, but that he and I still share the same close relationship we did when he was growing up. We still tell each other everything and we still talk out our problems and “counsel” each other when we need it...that our love and friendship is unconditional. Raising kids is hard, especially if you are doing it on your own or with little help (which is what I did). It can leave you feeling tired and frustrated and at times, like giving up, but don't. Cherish each moment in every day that you are fortunate enough to spend with your children...find the good times and latch onto them...make wonderful memories and arm them with positive coping skills so they grow up finding the good in life.

WHERE WERE YOU???

(c)07/2015-Kimberly D Miller WHERE WERE YOU??? Where were you when it all turned bad...when I could not make sense of the things in my head; Where were you when I came out to all...when I had no choice but to answer that call; Where were you when I needed a hand...just someone to see me and then understand; Where were you when the judgments flew...when everyone left me and I was so blue; Where were you when confusion set in...when I was drowning my sorrows in a bottle of gin; Where were you when people would stare...when I learned not to hide it, learned not to care; Where were you??? Right by my side every step of the way...I cherish you! Thank you for taking the time to stop and visit and please, if you like what you've read, leave a comment. If you have a blog or website of your own I would love to visit it. After your comment, make sure to post your link and I will stop by and leave a comment as well. Happy blogging.

I'M PERFECT...

If ever a self-sabotaging word existed in the English language it is the word “perfect.”  Never, ever, ever strive to be perfect…unless you love stressing yourself out of course. We all have internal scales, i.e. good or bad, right or wrong,  etc.  We constantly rate ourselves and our performance in all areas of our lives and if we don’t measure up to the bar we set, we feel let down or upset about it in some way.  Do you ever say to yourself things like, “Why didn’t I finish all of my work today?  I should have,” or “I can do much better than that,” or “It isn’t perfect or good enough.”  There is no such thing as perfect .  It just doesn’t exist in our world.  Those of us who strive to achieve it on a daily basis, or at all really, all we do is create stress and more stress and then even more stress than that.  We are human, and as such…we are flawed, therefore we  can never achieve perfection but by definition.  Who defines perfect?  In your adult life, you do (unless yo

YOU'RE A WOMAN, SO AM I...

The other day I received an email from a woman who reads my blog.  She said she liked the poem I recently posted entitled, "Let Me Hold You," and asked that I post more of my lesbian poetry.  I do have a lot of my lesbian poems posted on my RedBubble site, but I also had this one that I had been working on over the past couple of days.  I will be writing and posting more of the same in the near future.  YOU'RE A WOMAN...SO AM I I plant myself inside your soul; And wrap my roots so they will grow; You're a woman, so am I; We can make it side by side; They say it's wrong but who are they; To judge my life in any way; My hand in yours, my life's complete; I feel alive when our lips meet; We press together, now we're one; We feed our souls in unison; We make sweet love with heat and fire; Our hearts are filled with such desire; Through many lifetimes I have known; That in your heart I'll make my hom

DYING LEAVES NEED TIME TO FALL...

When, when, when, when and when??? More often than not in life we have to use the virtue of patience (yes, patience is a virtue) and if we don't use it often enough, it becomes one of those really tough things to call upon at a moment's notice. There is a song I love and listen to often called "Dents" by The Acorn and one of the lyrics is, “...dying leaves need time to fall.” Every time I hear that line it grabs me and shakes me upside down by my feet as if to say, “Hey, if you just let things happen in their own time...and they will happen...then they will be right and wonderful and all that they should be.” You know the expression, “hurry up and wait?” I can say from my own experience that whenever I have wanted something wonderful to happen or if I knew it was going to happen, I would try to think of ways to either hurry it along or maybe herd it into my life in a way other than that in which it was meant to enter and never with the results I had hoped f

AND I QUOTE...

http://www.jucoolimages.com/images/quotes/quotes_18.gif Every now and then I run across quotes that really spell it out about living life to its fullest and with its best intentions.  Yesterday I was stumbling through cyberspace and I came across this site that had so many that I liked so I wanted to share them with you. Here are 60 thought-provoking quotes from   Everyday Life Lessons : You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. Don’t think of cost.  Think of value. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly. Too many people buy things they don’t need with money they don’t have to impress people they don’t know.   No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying. If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so.  Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people  wh

COMP"PART"MENTAL-IZE...

Do you ever feel like Sybil, i.e. like you have so many personalities inside of you that you are never really sure which one of those accurately depicts the real you? Maybe it's just me, but I feel like moods are various versions of ourselves that make up the total package of who we are. As humans we are able to compartmentalize the various versions of ourselves and the different moods they are comprised of. In fact, the word “compartmentalize” contains the word “part” and “mental,” both of which are indicative of doing just that...putting the different parts into our mental compartments. Why do we compartmentalize? With our moods we do it because to bring them all out and combine them all at once would drive us right into the waiting arms of the mental institutions. It would make us nuts.  But we do it early on with undeveloped parts of ourselves that we want to preserve. When we are young and developing there are often parts of us that, due to our living condit

LIFE BEGINS AT THE END OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE...

Did you ever want to make changes in or to your life but weren't sure of how to get started or even if you could make them? The answer? You can...any time...all the time...any change you desire. All you have to do is to know what you want and then to want it. There is a wonderful saying that goes, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” I love this...its says it all for me. I know all too well that when I want to make drastic changes in my life I have to make the decision to walk outside of my comfort zone in one or more directions in order to achieve them. Of course not all changes are drastic changes but even the small ones require a certain amount of comfort zone departure. For most people the comfort zone is a very difficult zone to leave, even if just for a short time because we all tend to snuggle into the routines in our lives with our footie pajamas on. Some or most of our routines may not best suit us or make us soul-wrenchingly happy, but we habitu

NEED TO LAUGH???

I don't know about you, but lately I need to laugh.  It seems my day is filled with a lot of ups and downs and emotions all over the chart, but all I want to do right now is laugh.  So, in order to help anyone else out there who is having the same kind of shitty month I have been having, I wanted to share the following video. It made me laugh so hard I peed a little and I hope it will do the same for you (hahaha).  Enjoy: Thank you for taking the time to stop and visit and please, if you like what you've read, leave a comment. If you have a blog or website of your own I would love to visit it. After your comment, make sure to post your link and I will stop by and leave a comment as well. Happy blogging.

PLANETARY YUCK...

Cape Arago - (c) 2015 Kimberly Miller As a person who follows astrology I research the alignment of the planets on a regular basis, especially when I feel out of sorts and last week I was very much out of sorts. It seems that everyone I talked to also had a very odd and seemingly difficult week last week and were also feeling out of sorts. My research concluded that there were indeed planetary alignments that challenged how we deal with one another and how we feel. The good news is that this week it all changes again, but Uranus will be moving into a house that puts us back to ourselves but makes us feel even better about it than usual. I work so hard to change the things about my life that no longer bring me joy and/or positive results and when these planetary challenges come into play it makes it all the more difficult to stay positive, but I believe this fight is part of the journey. It wouldn't mean as much if it were too easy to get where I wanted to be and I w

IT'S A BEAUTIFUL DAY . ..

It's a beautiful day to feel good. ..about everything. ...give yourself permission to enjoy each and every day

THE SILENT STONE...

By the silent stone I sit, my soul encased with physical strains; My head I press into the wind, I long to soar above the stress of gravity; The ocean breeze taunts my skin with its crisp purity and scent of honesty; I care no more for restraints of emotionality or oppression of human obstacles; Judge me not for I care not about clandestine judgments of those who do not know; I release my hold on illusions and embrace the here and the now. Sometimes I write these...they are a cross between a poem and a rant, but calmer and without rhyme.  I can't remember what they are called, but I remember doing them years ago in a day-long class I took.  They are a great writing exercise and an exercise in letting yourself free up with expression. (c) 2015 Kimberly D Miller Thank you for taking the time to stop and visit and please, if you like what you've read, leave a comment. If you have a blog or website of your own I would love to visit it. After

DRIVING ME CRAZY...

You know how you are out on the road, minding your own business, listening to music, singing along, just enjoying the drive and then.. blam ...someone pulls out in front of you or cuts you off and makes you have to slam on your brakes, your fight-or-flight reaction kicks in as your life flashes before your eyes and your mellow, enjoyable mood is gone in an instant!!! That happens to me so often anymore, but I realized the other day that these would be people that I would most likely avoid in my personal life anyway. You can tell so much about people by the way they drive. Those people who pull out in front of you are either...royalty and don't feel they have to wait until it's clear because when they enter the road the seas will part and allow them free and clear passage or...they are the ones who pay attention to nothing and do not care about the consequences for anyone concerned (until, of course, they have an accident and kill a family or something equally horrifyi

THERE'S NO TIME...

You've heard the expression, time and tide wait for no man? Well, it's true and it waits for no woman either (lol). We are allotted a certain amount of time when we arrive in this realm and we need to use it wisely. It is our fear of wasting time that causes us stress and yet the oxymoron there is that stress is such a waste of time. How many times a day do you wonder what time it is. With the advent of the concept of time, came stress. When our society enveloped the use of the calendar and then the use of the concept of time within the calendar, we set ourselves up for these stressul lives we lead in being slaves to these two concepts. Think about your day. You get up at a designated time (most days) and then you use time to “stay on schedule” as you prepare yourself for you day. You then need to get to your work by a designated time and meet deadlines within their designated time frames. At some point you take a lunch, which is only allotted a certain amount

FIND YOUR REFLECTION...

(I took this picture of Haceta Head Lighthouse this past Friday) I had a beautiful day at the beach today, writing in my journal...poetry and reflection.  Reflection is such a great way to find the things in your heart and soul that are actually important and true.  This is the poem I wrote: I now understand, I finally know, How to find freedom, how to let go, You have to give up, you have to give in, But just from the fight you battle within, You cannot worry, you cannot care, About circumstances that aren't really there, Live for each moment, they're precious you see, Live for the positive, live to be free, Keep judgments and gossip out of your life, If you embrace them they'll only bring strife, We need to weed through what's important or not, We need to take stock of the beauty we've got, Get rid of fear, be the person you are, Learn to be free, stop fighting that war. This is the reflection: Right now

HEAD REGURGITATION...

If you read my blog then you know that from time to time I need to let out all of the random thoughts and weirdness that builds up and runs around my brain.  I do this in the form of free writing in which I write down anything and everything that comes to mind, whether it makes sense or not.  It is a great release and this morning I really need to release. People who don't try to stay in my life, don't deserve to be there. I am going to slap the next person who tries to shush me in any way. If you know me you know I am a person of words, please respect that. Don't use the word “little” to describe anything in anyone's life when you talk to me, it is very condescending and pretentious. I love myself and I deserve only the best life has to offer. I miss my family, even my dad. I want to help people, I hope I do. I need to put more music on my phone. I want to go to the beach today. A person could leave your life in a heartbeat so if you don't tell them you lov

FINDING FREEDOM...

You wanna know the secret to being free? It's actually very simple...you are free when you are fearless. Isn't that simple? Okay so for some the execution of that concept may not be simple, but for those who lead a relatively fearless and faithful life, you know what I mean. I used to fear everything. I think all shy people do or they wouldn't be shy. Shyness in itself is a fear...a fear of being who you are and greeting the world with it for fear you will be judged. Actually, that is a good place to start, fear of being judged. Why do we fear this? If you break this down you will realize just how silly this is. We are afraid that if we do a certain thing or say a certain thing that someone in our personal world or our work world will judge us in some way but this then prompts me to ask you this question...so what? What will happen if you are judged by another human being who is full of as much human frailty and sin as you are? One of two things will happen.

SAND RAILS IN THE DUNES...

 (Top picture...I'm in the back with my hand on the top rail ...Bottom picture...I'm all the way to the left...not my best hair day...lol) Part of the excitement of moving to a new state is discovering all of the things hidden in it.  I so love getting out in my truck and exploring. There are things to do all over the place and I am having so much fun finding them here in this beautiful state or Oregon. A few miles south of Florence, Oregon, one of my favorite coastal towns (they still have an A&W that you can drive up in and they carhop for you), there is a place called the Family Fun Center and I have always wanted to go there. Yesterday I drove up to the Haceta Head Lighthouse in Yachats and on the way back I thought, why not.  Besides go-carts and bumper boats and other kid-friendly activities, they also had a huge dune buggy that would take you on a tour of the dunes or you could go for more excitement and go for a thrill-seeking ride on the sand rails.  Of c

LET ME HOLD YOU...

Be my love and I'll be whole, let me wrap you in my soul, Let me wrap around your heart, from your life I'll never part, You're a gift from up above and you have taught me how to love, Live your life without the fear, live with pride don't shed a tear, Be who you are despite the glares, I can teach you not to care, Share my life and be with me, we'll live a life that's so carefree, We'll make sweet love both day and night, how I long to hold you tight, Be my love and I'll be whole, let me wrap you in my soul. The thing about writing poetry, at least for me, is that when it needs to come out, there is no stopping it.  I liked this one though. Thank you for taking the time to stop and visit and please, if you like what you've read, leave a comment. If you have a blog or website of your own I would love to visit it. After your comment, make sure to post your link and I will stop by and leave a comment as wel